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"Aww..does that HURT?"
I’m Akasha of Akasha’s Web – if you google it, you can find it pretty easily. I’ve been writing and sharing my femdom erotica for many years on the Web. I get asked if my stories are real or fiction – they are a mix of both. Some are almost completely autobiographical. Others are fantasy. I explore darker themes, kidnappings and more dangerous S&M through my writing, because in real life, I am a very safe person with a huge conscience.
When people ask me how long I have been in the “lifestyle” I’m not quite sure how to answer. I’m not really active in the BDSM community per se, but I have been tying up the tormenting men since I was old enough to date. My earliest experiences with bondage were mere fascination at cartoons, the Adam West version of “Batman” (go Catwoman), and playful games with neighbor boys that involved no sexuality at all.
I grew into S&M as I got older and started to experiment more. I call my desire to see a man surrender as a ‘hunger’ - and that’s what it is for me. I like men who can be vulnerable for me – I enjoy seduction and the process of making a man submit a little at a time. I like it when submission is not easy, but a man does it for the reward of seeing me wet.
My job has nothing to do with S&M and I am not a professional dominatrix, but by my toychest, you’d think I was. I love my gear – I love owning gear and buying gear. I love restraints and more (shackles, straitjackets, gags, pain devices, floggers, strapons, asstoys, you name it). In my real job I am self employed and work from home, but I tend to travel a lot depending on the time of year. I am open to meeting kinky people, but only after a decent period of time (on the phone). Trust is a huge issue with me. If you lie to me once, that’s it.
I’m happily married and in an open relationship. I am not looking for a boyfriend or anything romantic. I like no-strings situations with men with whom I share chemistry and a mutual fascination with bondage and S&M. Sexual play is out of the question. I am fluid monogamous. This means I can beat another man senseless (in a good way), experiment with bondage and do a wide variety of things, but I am not interested in sexual intercourse outside of my primary relationship. I also don’t hide anything from my primary partner but bi, cuckolding or games of the sort are not part of our agenda.
My outside interests vary, but I’m a huge workaholic. My career is very important to me. When I am not working long hours, I’m very into hockey (yes, it’s a fetish; watching it, not playing it), travel, animal causes (I’m a volunteer with a few organizations), and some new media. My limited free time usually goes toward writing or exploring fantasies that I can never make reality, but that’s an entire journal entry of its own. I also am very health conscious and prefer the same out of the men I dominate – I don’t smoke, do drugs, rarely drink, and I work out regularly. I also have a femdom guild in World of Warcraft, where, to be honest, I spend more time flirting than questing. I’m admittedly not very good at video games, but I find the guild dynamic to be fun, and we’ve got a great group. Email me if you want details on how to join us, but only if you are already in the game or at least know what it is.
I don’t like to be called “Mistress,” “Goddess,” or “Ma’am,” by strangers – just call me Akasha. I like equal relationships where control is slowly siphoned away from the man until he realizes it’s too late. I like to play the role of a predator of sorts. This doesn’t mean I like men who are egomaniacs or play hard to get – I like men who are classy, dignified and witty – and in good time, are capable and hot when on all fours serving me.
My main fetishes in no particular order: bondage, chastity, teasing & denial, strapon, behavior mod, humiliation, sadism (in the form of nipple torture, some cbt, etc.), flogging/caning, etc. There’s very little I have not tried; my lust comes from seeing a man endure, especially if it’s an act he previously thought unthinkable, but finds himself doing because he’s surrendered to me and can’t resist getting me hot. Eating his own cum, licking it off my boots, sucking it off my fingers, begging for tortures he hates, enduring weeks of chastity while being teased, etc. My other fantasies and fascinations involve diabolical machines and devices: milking, medical, and air tight boxes. Breath control is, by far, my number one hot button; however, I don’t indulge it in real life, because I’m way too practical and cautious.
Phone is my preferred method of communication – I like the idea of long distance partners to start. I hate to use the term “online slave” because it’s more than text – I carry most of my communication via phone or voice of some manner (on my dime) and like pictures or videos as supplemental proof that tasks are being completed. I don’t mind paying for toys if the sub does not have any.
If there’s suitable chemistry, meeting is a possibility with the right submissives. There are very few things that are deal breakers if mutual chemistry is in place, but those things are dishonesty, possessiveness, passive aggressive behavior, being demanding, being too focused on your fetishes instead of mine (hint: I am perfectly capable of using your fetishes to blow your mind, but want to do it on my terms) or unrealistic jealousy. If I feel like I am doing all the work or expected to – in the form of who is initiating contact and sending the bulk of the emails (I refuse to be the one sending long notes only to get one or two lines in response) – I lose interest fast. Once I am VERY interested, expect me to take control – but in the initial stages, I prefer it to be 50/50, or at least see a notable effort on the part of the sub. To that end, I don’t get a chance to answer many one line emails here, but will almost always answer those that took some time to put together a thoughtful note. If you really want to stand out, find my address on my site and email me there, since I do get a lot of mail here.
The best way to contact me is to include a tasteful photo and a nice introduction letter, including something unique and clever about yourself. What are your hobbies and interests outside of S&M – or, alternatively, what makes you an exceptionally hot bottom. I have no problems with very superficial S&M relationships if lust plays a role; so by all means, if you think you’d push all the right buttons, let me know. My preferences are for geeks, boytoys, introverts who have deep burning passion, artist-types. I tend to be drawn to “cute” more than “drop dead gorgeous.” Lacking both, if you can get into my head and understand my femdom urges in a NON-blatantly sexual manner, I’ll want to cage you for good, no matter what you look like. I prefer waifs to super-jocks but make exceptions.
I’m a bit shallow in that I like men who are easy on the eyes, but most importantly, I am attracted to self confidence or self esteem and at least a desire to take care of yourself and be the best that you can be, both inside and out.
If you have great puppy dog eyes, send me a picture on your knees with your mouth taped shut. Seriously! Clothed, of course. I love that kind of thing. Read my journal regularly for some of my stories, I share them from time to time.
Akasha
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