| I never thought that I would be happy in a poly relationship where I was not the primary partner, or did not have another relationship at the same time where I was the primary partner, but that is exactly where I find myself now. So just perhaps, at this point in my life, this is what I need.
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Outspoken, forthright and direct ("opinionated" used to be there too, but apparently, alot of people got the wrong impression). If you're looking for meek and quiet, you won't find that here, nor will you find a brat. But you will find fierce loyalty and devotion, a pretty good cook, an awful singer, and a decent seamstress. I can drive a stick shift and parallel park. I'm a whiz with organization and paperwork, and can run an office like a pro. Impressed yet?
I don't buy into that "submission is a gift" line. A gift is something you give with no expectation of anything in return, which is certainly not my definition of submission. Being submissive is my orientation, it's who I am. Submitting to someone means accepting their leadership, seeking their guidance, digging deep into the dark places where the trust hides and letting it out, and above all, striving to please them.
For all of those that have fallen in lust with my avatar in the forums... I'm sorry to have to inform you that the naked ass bound in rope is not me. Maybe twenty years ago, but not now. Go get a tissue for your tears, g'ahead, I'll wait.
If you want to read my journal, click on "view full profile" then the journal will come up at the bottom... just trust me on this one.
Cali
A big PS: Someone told me that I don't have what I'm looking for in my profile. Well, no, I guess I don't, but it is buried back in my journal. So for easy reference, here ya go:
I don't want someone who is perfect, or who tries to give the impression of perfection. I want someone who is honest with me and has a good work ethic. I want someone who is dominant - I do NOT want to have to make all the decisions all the freakin' time.
I want someone who can acknowledge that something hurts my feelings even if he doesn't understand why it hurts my feelings. I want someone who understands why certain things are important to me, even if they aren't important to him.
I want someone who appreciates my good qualities, and graciously deals with my bad ones.
I want someone who does not want to remake me, but would tweak the areas that need tweaking (such as my awful procrastination habit).
I want someone that I can trust, someone that is who he says he is, and is not hiding behind qualities he thinks he should have (but really doesn't). I want someone that does what he says he is going to do.
And if his motto is "better to ask forgiveness than permission", he's DEFINITELY not the one for me. (this doesn't mean that he needs my permission for something; it means that if he is considering something that he knows is a dealbreaker, or very hurtful, and does it anyway figuring he can get me to forgive him later, then he is not the one for me.)
And I want someone that is willing to have really awesome sex. That seems obvious, but it's not. Really awesome sex generally takes time to develop, as you get to know each other's mind and body.
Oh yes, and I want someone who wants me in his life as much as I want him in mine.
PPS (since obviously my profile wasn't long enough as it was - major eyeroll): I don't have "willing to relocate" checked on my profile, but in reality, I am. The air quality is awful where I live, the summers are ungodly hot, and I'm within spitting distance of my relatives (that is reason enough right there to get the hell out of dodge!). I do have children in my life, and their well-being is paramount, so it would not be a fast process. But it is a do-able process.
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