| "Dominance Oblige": the responsibilities of a dominant towards submissives; to me this includes an obligation to guide the submissive (or anyone who submits themselves to my dominance or authority in any capacity) towards their blossoming into the highest potentials of their nature, pysche, status, and will. I also apply this (as far as is appropriate) to submissive friends who don't have a formal relationship with me.
Dominance oblige also includes the needs to: respect any negotiated and agreed-upon limits; (IF it is among the sub/slave's needs; otherwise not) provide TLC and nurturing; discipline (of course!); protect. Dominance oblige is an ideal of a good dom/me. It's both pragmatic and idealistic, because a happy and fulfilled sub or slave is probably going to be more pleasing and provide superior service.
My mode of dominance and my interests are fairly flexible, so if you're a submissive female in need of any of the following types of domination or guidance, it may be worth your while to contact me. To help, I'll give you a brief definition of what they mean to me.
Master - owner of a slave or pet, or sometimes Dominant of a submissive, usually a sexual relationship.... Disciplinarian - Dominant specializing in guidance of a submissive person, with authority to mete out punishment, may be platonic or sexual ... Mentor - Includes mentoring in the "vanilla" sense, but expanded to include guidance, advice, and perhaps training in bdsm matters ... Daddy - Like Mentor, but with a paternal feeling and greater closeness and intimacy, may or may not include age play of some sort ... Tutor - teaching of any kind of learning, with corporal and other discipline as a learning aid and motivation OR like a mentor, but a little less close ... Friend-with-a-firm-hand, who can be both strict and tender as needed - a more casual type of relationship with spanking or other bdsm elements added ... Dominant lover - does it need an explanation?
In all of the above, details, rules and conditions are usually negotiable.
I'm an intense and intelligent musician, writer, and philosopher (among other things), looking for slave-girls, pets, and submissive and/or spankable friends. Also ISO girls to dance while I make music, for our mutual enjoyment. My music is mainly "world"/folkish (while often innovative, much more traditional than New-Agey styles). Would also consider playing to accompany the dancing of other men's girls (dancing mainly for their man's pleasure). Also would be happy to meet up with with other compatible musicians, of course, vanilla-wise or otherwise. :)
At this point, I am looking for friends first, which may develop into closer relationships, but my friends can (unless I happen to be in a mono-amorous relationship) ask me for discipline, training, consolation, orgasm, or other intimate attention. These are "fringe benefits", which female friends are welcome to ask for, and those who wish can also offer their "benefits" to me; but it is NOT a requirement for friends to either ask for or offer any "benefits". While I'm largely inclined to want a friendship to develop before getting more intimate, exceptions might be made under the right circumstances.
I'm also happy to hear from dom/mes and others on a friendly basis, for discussion and conversation.
My ethnicity is a mixed Euro- and Native-American background. All ethnic backgrounds are welcome. I have a preference for red hair and green eyes, but I appreciate and enjoy a very wide range of types of beauty, from all ethnic groups. Also particularly interested in contacting or meeting women from steppe cultures, especially if loyal to their traditional (pre-Abrahamic) religions. Another "want" of mine is submissive "Amazon" (female warrior, martial-artist, etc.) types. I am very old-fashioned in many ways (this DOESN'T mean "Victorian"...), and if you only know modern culture, you will have some learning and adjusting to do. I'm not "Gorean" but I am very familiar with that culture and the literature it is based upon, and my old-fashioned ways are mostly Gor-compatible and Gor-friendly.
Have special needs? Can supply things like mentoring or tutoring with (or without) old-fashioned discipline; confession and penance (not sacramentally); discipline-oriented motivation for weight-loss (with positive and negative reinforcements); slave-training; character-reform training, or other things. Need or something else? It won't hurt to ask...
I'm not much into online role-play, but am certainly happy to exchange messages for conversation, and to offer guidance and advice, including to new and potential dom/mes, since I've had requests and questions from fellow dominants. At this point, I might consider working with couples, too.
One of my main "vanilla" "hobbies" is studying languages, so one of the things I can best tutor for is languages, and I'm also interested in writing with people who want practice, or who would like to help me improve. Languages that I'm particularly interested in, and have some familiarity with: French, Japanese, Sanskrit, Hindi, Bengali, Esperanto, Panjabi, and all Celtic languages. But many others also interest me, so feel free to contact me in regard to others as well.
Note: I'm located in the southernmost borough of New York City, Staten Island. At least that's what foreigners call it. ;-) Its real name is Aquehonga.
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