| Hello everyone,
Sorry this is so long, but I don’t want there to be any misunderstandings.
I am not unapproachable. However, I do have some standards. If you approach me, then you should want to get to know me as a person first, not as a Domme, and if you want to get to know me; be prepared to do the work it takes in getting to know one another. We already know we have bdsm in common, so no need to get into that until we know each other. You will find I am firm. I am honest and have no problem saying what’s on my mind, so you don’t have to guess how I feel about something, just ask.
A little about me: First of all I'm newly separated. I like Harleys (back seat rider), I like music, metal, country, etc., mediI know right?) but it’s so much fun. I feel open displays of affection are important. I want a relationship in which we give to each other freely, When I care about a person I show it and wish for the same from him. I want a very attentive person, romantic, very “touchy/feely”
I'm very nurturing and caring, I love to really take care of my sub in "every" way. I am extremely careful, you must do exactly what I say or I will end it. and I mean the whole relationship, no one get’s hurt around me. I will NOT be Domme to anyone that is under the influence of ANYTHING, that is way too dangerous. (been there, lived through that) So if you have a “habit” of alcohol or drugs I am not the one for you. I know everyone has baggage, but don’t come to me with nothing but drama. Please get your life in order before you contact me. If you can’t stay off of the internet talking to other women, move on, you must be interested in being mine and mine alone. Honesty and loyalty are very important to me. I hate liars and cheaters.
I am looking for a submissive (eventually 24/7) that will also be my companion, (please do not think I’m trying to “catch” a husband, been there done that, not even remotely thinking of marriage)....I have had boyfriends that were both into this and definitely not into it.... I resent those that call this "kink", this is a lifestyle, the one I’ve chosen that I think brings about a more deeper kind of caring and trust than vanilla.
Definition of a relationship for me: It means growing and changing and living through the good times as well as the bad. It means loving each other even when it’s difficult. I want your tenderness and affection, your kindness and your strength. I want to be there for you when you feel on top of the world, and I want to be there when your spirit is crushed. I want to feel protected and secure in your love and to trust you at all times. I want you to feel safe with me and never to be ashamed to talk about your fears and weaknesses. I want to encourage you to stand up for your beliefs and always to do what is right. I want to stand beside each other as we go through life together.
Ideal Person: A domestic slave, would who will cook, clean, do laundry, but who will come to the defense of his Mistress at a moments notice if need be. One who is sensitive, kind and caring. I want a man who will put my needs first, as I will do with him. A man who will spoil me with a lot of little things, like always wanting to hold my hand where ever we go, who will not be afraid to share with me, show me his emotions, and is man enough to let me do the same. I want a man that will gladly go the extra mile and takes pleasure in doing it. Someone that wants to be a submissive to a very caring dominant woman, who I derives a lot of pleasure from doing for his mate. You must be "bi" or at least “bi curious” Sometimes I do use other men for training purposes, so yes I do need this openness. Still here? Wow, if you read this far, we must have a lot in common and are on the same page.
What you will get:
I am a sensual Domme, I don’t do edge play. I like to sexually tease. The only pain I administer are spankings. I use paddles, belts, crops, etc. I am not gentle in spanking, but I do go slowly to build up your tolerance. I am very much into bondage, rituals and tasks…. I'm creative and adventurous in play
BDSM in a lifestyle relationship has many many facets to it, and a lot do not understand this. I say this because I believe this kind of relationship has to be in stages. At first communication, we get to know each other just like any other couple.
This is the stage were guys misunderstand the most. Just because I’m being nice and kind does not mean I’m not a strict Domme. I don’t play net games, so I’m not going to put on some “domme” roll for a total stranger, you will be treated just like any other person I am first meeting.
The next stage is yet a little more difficult, especially for the first time slave. This is where we have decided to try this as a couple, for lack of a better word. This is where you will have your “interview” and we will be discussing BDSM in great detail and you will be physically tested. This means our lives are basically split in two. We still growing as companions, but now the Domme/slave relationship is entered into it, so you have got to be able to function in more than one realm.
The third stage is when we have blended both worlds effectively together. This takes time people. Actually all of the stages do. There is no set timing for these stages, could take a day, a week, a month, it depends on how we relate to each other. But if we are supposed to be in this for the long haul…what’s the hurry?
Sorry I have to go into the following, but unfortunately needs to be covered:
I am into inter racial relationships, in other words, please don’t bore me with what color you are, how many black people you’ve been with, your opinions on black people or anything about your race, that’s a waste of time for me, you should want to contact me because you think we can relate as “people” not colors. I hope that takes care of that!
If you refer to yourself as worthless, slut, pig, etc., please do not contact me. Slaves/submissive are proud people and proud of their choice in life. I have found there is nothing worthless about them. As for being a “slut”, I’m not interested in anyone that is not interested in only me.
If there is a c**k in my face, as soon as I open my email you are not the person for me. I prefer to get to know a person first, not their genitals. Also, I don’t want anyone that would be my property exposed to all in internet land unless I choose it.
Sorry, I am not into feminization, nothing against it just not my cup of tea.
I am in no way interested in submitting to or switching with anyone. I will not try and train switches or Dom’s that all of a sudden want to try being submissive, that dynamic just doesn’t work for me. A lot of guys think being a “brat” is cute, well I’m not into those either, it waste a lot of good training time, and mainly because being hard headed can get you hurt. I detest constant arguing, bitching back and forth and constantly being questioned or challenged on what I command. You want to be in charge, become a Dom and don’t bother me. I have much better uses for our time.
I am not a pro, I am not interested in your money, I can take care of myself, nor am I here to support you, I am not just looking for “someone” to train. I want a companion. I am also not here to help you get a green card. You must live and work here or at least close to here.
Do not bother me if you are some traveling person who just wants to “play” while you are in the area. Please don't contact me if you are married, or wanting to "experiment" for a time or two, or just looking for something casual. And please do not try to change my mind, Not interested in cyber, or online. just real time.
What? I’m too bossy for you? ….Isn’t that what you wanted…LOL
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