Where did we get this either or stuff for masculinity and BDSM? We
think men can be either big and tough, but dumb, or thoughtful and
intelligent, but weak.
Bullshit. As a man, I want to be physically puissant, powerful—I want
my body to reflect my intensity and drive. I want my intellect to be
honed in the same way, to be razor sharp.
I was a Marine officer for 15
years; currently I teach composition and sociolinguistics at a top,
tier 1 research university. Both of those are outgrowths of my idea of
a man as a warrior and a poet, as a man of action and a scholar.
The same with BDSM. The main paradigm seems to be you can either be
sadistic and powerful, but emotionally aloof and cold, or emotionally
engaged but a pussy. Man, fuck that. I’m a sadist and dominant
precisely because that’s how I love.
And yea, it’s about love. The only
thing I care about here, the only thing that matters, are the loving
relationships in my life. I love my family, and I love my friends
dearly. I loved my Marines, and I love my students. You know what
though? My Marines often took a long time to understand that I loved
them, because it was a motherfucking tough love. I pushed them, I made
them follow me, to places they did not want to go. It was for their
good, it was to make them better Marines, but they sure as shit didn’t
enjoy the pain, the sacrifices I demanded from them. It’s a little like
that with my students—it takes them about half a semester to see the
value in how much I demand of them, and to see that I’m hard, not an
asshole. There’s a difference.
I’m here to find someone I can own as mine, utterly take and mark to
their core. Someone who is grateful for my brutal sadism and my love.
Because if I can slap you across the face and you kiss me back in
adoration, if I can rape your ass and use you as a cumdump and you are
grateful I used you, if I can whip your ass, whip your cunt, and you
look at me with love in your eyes because I am not afraid to hurt you,
not afraid to control you, not afraid to own you…
…how could I not love you back?
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
We
cannot deny who we are. Every role I've chosen in my life: Marine
Officer, Foster Parent, Teacher, has been a fatherly, caring and
protecting role. I'm a Daddy--it's my nature.
My Ideal Person:
Deeply submissive, masochistic, pleaser, little girl, intelligent,
thoughtful, funny as hell, and hot as fire. |
