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My top priority in interacting with the community at collarme.com is to develop lasting friendships. I respond to all sincere inquiries.
I have interest in playmates and a potential relationship, but I'm interested in friendship first. I'm also interested in broadening my contact with others in the BDSM D/s community even if it doesn't necessarily involve play.
I have recent STD test results(I'm negative for HIV, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Hepatitis A/B/C, Syphilis). I see it as a big plus if you care about your partners enough to do something similar(I haven't played beyond erotic massage in years unless I have seen such results). If you can't afford testing, I DO understand and we can talk about how to make this happen for you. I am willing to take other precautions. I'm also drug/alcohol/tobacco free(I don't have test results showing my lack of drug use, but would be happy to provide them on request). My photo is available on request.
If I contact you, it is because I'm willing to take some time to get to know you. I am reciprocal in my communications and appreciate the same.
With friends, I'm a highly intellectual person. I will encourage you to think things through in ways very few men will. I am highly ethical and have a highly idealistic side. I'm a software engineer and a professional writer(I do policy analysis and economics research).
I'm a dominant not an egotist or a sociopath. From my perspective a dominant is capable of taking responsibility for someone or something and is really accountable for the results. When a commune of 25+ people that lasted over 20 years). I have seen the work that took-and rarely meet folks that are capable or inclined towards that level of effort. I respect that area of experimentation but have come to question the applicability of those examples in my own life. I have had very positive swinging experiences-and would love to find a partner that shares that interest.
I have over 25 years of exposure to the BDSM and D/s lifestyle communities. Now, some of my exposure has been a bit specialized-and I have been out of circulation for a while.
If I'm contacted by a single female, I will tend to really focus on getting to know them rather than hop into play situations. If you see yourself as looking for a Dominant male partner, I will want to figure out what kind of partner you want and how I might fit into your plans NOT take advantage of you. I am ONLY interested in an intimate relationship with women that want to play a submissive role with me. I'm also attracted to women that want to dominate other women(which is why I put myself as seeking switches also). I'm also especially interested in women that have an interest in being bred-and want an exceptionally dedicated father to parent their children. I do of course approach such decisions very carefully. I'm less concerned with putting more notches in my belt than helping guide you to the right situation for you. I will move very carefully on anything that involves a potential longer term commitment.
I'm experienced in D/s and especially enjoy directed sharing of partners(I see this different than cuckolding in that the male partner has more control over the situation). I am VERY careful who I would share any partner with(though some of my criteria may be different than what you are used to--as might my limits in that area). On my interests, not all of my interests are applicable to all partners. In particular, I am VERY selective who I would apply humiliation towards. I would only do that with a partner that not only consented, but I felt it was helpful to their overall development. I do sometimes see submissives who have participated in the humiliation of others and need to be humiliated themselves to attain any real balance in life. I am able and willing to accommodate potential partners with an extremely high sex drive even if it exceeds my own. I don't see that as a negative if we have the right communication and agreeements in place.
I appreciate potential partners that have a serious drive for self-improvement-or are willing to let me help instill that drive in them. I appreciate intelligence, education and ability to get along in the world. My own base of operations is in a remote rural area near Portland. I don't see service as an excuse for dependency. I also don't expect you to be perfect. Please be honest about who you are-and what you think you can be.
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