Please see my rules of communication below before you email me or know why I don't respond.
It really doesn’t matter to some, what is here as long as there is a picture… lol… So this will be for those of you who read and actually want to see something about me or what I am all about. You are the rarity out there and that really makes you special! It is a special man I seek… one who knows who he is and what he wants and knows how to make it happen. You know that life is more than sexual enticements and kink and you want more! You want it all! Just as I want it all…
I’m not talking about material things or bank accounts, trips to foreign places, expensive things and a way of life that takes all of your time at work to pay for it. No, you want the finer things in life and those things are found in people, love and laughter. Life can get complicated and I think it’s an amazing thing to know the simple things in life and desire to have them. We can be complex in a simple manner and live the complexities of life simply and happily. The only drama is the kind we create when we play and decide to add a little spice.
Living life can be fun even when it is not and I strive to enjoy every moment of it! Smiling, laughing, wisecracking, word playing and going through the day with a playful attitude is what I am about. Even in times where seriousness is needed, we can have fun!
My soul dances through life and I think it would be wonderful to have someone to dance with.
I’m tough and yet soft. I’m a blend of opposites and when I say blend I mean it. Good and bad, soft and hard, tough and gentle. I can dress up or dress down, although I would rather dress down. Living comfortably in every way is very important to me. Struggles will come in life, so why not find some comfort in the struggles and make the best of it with a smile and good cheer? Sure there are times when I am not smiling and cheer is hard to find… but I am still seeking it out because I refuse to be without my cheerfulness that takes me through it all!
I thrive on intellectual stimulation… honesty or truth makes me laugh because I find such joy in truth… humor is the tool I use for the serious and fun times and carries me through a lot. Integrity and honor are both truths to me and I live them.
Being dominant isn’t something I am out of anger, hatred or some dysfunction in myself of life. It is a part of who I am. While I am dominant, I do not feel I am better, superior, selfish or cruel as these things are not a part of who I am and not necessarily what dominance is about. It is a personality trait that I have come to accept after thinking dominance was wrong. It can be a beautiful thing and is beautiful in me. I don’t consider anyone, much less my submissive, as someone lower or less than I am. We are simply different.
I do want a female led relationship if I have one and I sometimes wonder if I will have one. That isn’t said negatively, but more realistically because it is going to take quite the man to take on what I have going on in life and to be able to match me. I would like someone to inspire me, just as I would inspire them and a survivor attitude is most important in my life circumstances. I don’t lack inspiration… I just think that love and a special relationship with someone enhances it all.
I am ill and I care for a brain damaged adult son who looks sixteen and who is sweet, quiet and funny. Everyone loved him before his injury and love him still as there is just something about him that is very loveable. These challenges can add difficulties to life and it takes a special someone to be willing to get involved and yet I think that my son and I are worth it and make it easy, at least in things we can control. There are things that will never be easy in it all… like the medical community and the lacks there. Yet we are easy to handle in it all.
I am a survivor… a go getter… dynamic in most every way… because I thrive on being so. I want to live and live well! lol I may not be able to dance the night away like I used to… I may not be able to run and play like I did… but that doesn’t stop me from living fun. It makes my world a bit smaller… but not less.
It will take a man who is willing to gamble, to take risks and who can be strong when the going gets tough, because it will. It will take someone like me in many ways. Someone who understands the finer things in life and agrees with me on what is really of value.
I love nature and am very creative. Currently I am doing a lot of home design and because I do spend so much time at home, I want it to be everything I need it to be and then some. From decorating the home, to planning an enclosed deck for a hot tub in spring… to beautifying the yard… I will need someone who enjoys these kinds of things or at least doesn’t hate doing them with me! I cannot move from this area and most likely wouldn’t move from this place for a while. This must be my main residence and I will be in no hurry to change that.
I do not want a long distance relationship, so please be from around my area (Kansas City) or be prepared to move close by if you want to pursue something with me. I am simply not going to wait and waste time doing the long distance get to know someone, when I could have them in person and interacting during the getting to know you process.
As a dominant I am gentle and yet firm. I am very direct and forthright and I simply expect that things will run smoothly. So if there is anything about you that would create anything that wouldn’t run smoothly, please don’t waste your time or mine. I am not lazy and I give my all to my mate and a relationship, but I do like to make good use of my time and drama, personal issues long ignored or a wrong focus are not my thing.
I am known as a nice domme… until I am not nice. Being very loving and gentle is my nature and yet I have a steel rod for a spine and a will that does not allow for anything I do not wish to deal with. I take care of business and don’t expect someone to bring me a lot of business to deal with. We are grown ups and we have chosen to live as we wish and according to our personalities and there is no reason for immaturity or silliness.
Be strong and submissive… be yourself.
I will not respond to ignorance in email and I will not accept chat invitations, messenger addresses or phone numbers. We get to know one another in email here and when I am ready to do something else, I will tell you. Anyone disrespecting how I wish to do things ought to go find someone else to play with and not expect a response in email.
Please do not think that I am overly lonely or needy and will accept anyone using my situation to get close to me. I am not in need of anything so much that I won’t hold out for what is really best for two people and at my age… I know what I want for myself and whoever is with me. Nothing else will be acceptable to me.
Full time… loving… female led… and from there… wherever we take it!
Rules of communication...
You must read my profile before you email me, there will be a test. That doesn’t mean the journal, but it could help to know me.
I do not do men I could have birthed. Figure I am 51 years old and gave birth after my teen years. You do the math.
I am not your mistress and am not a goddess. Until you are mine or I start creating magic, do not call me either.
Your nic must be on my list of who is viewing me before I respond to your email. If you viewed me and didn’t contact me for some time and the list that moves fast doesn’t show you, you might consider viewing the profile again. That way I can know for sure, you were there.
I will not respond to short emails. I don’t need a chapter in a book, but a few lines or comments will get no response from me. The only exception to this is if you are emailing in response to a message board post I made.
I do not want your yahoo or msn messenger addy and I do not leave this site to chat with anyone. It won’t happen. If you send me your addy, I will block you.
I do not chat with anyone on this site until I want to.
