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About me - I am a Dominant Male, 40-something (ugh... was that ever hard to change!) with brown hair and brown eyes, husky build and a goatee. I can’t tell you if I’m attractive or not, if beauty is in the eye of the beholder, that is not for me to figure out. The same thing applies to my partner - she does not have to be a Vogue cover model, but she has to have something about her that I find sexy. What do I find sexy in a woman? I’m looking for a spark; it’s indescribable, but impossible to miss.
I create an environment for you in which to submit. I am not looking for a "force me" submissive, nor am I looking for a submissive that will test my dominance all the time; I've taken enough in the course of all of my schoolin' that I am done with them. I am not looking for a doormat submissive, who wants me to make all of her decisions for her.
Most days I am not 100% sure what I am looking for, so I am just looking at the moment. There are some characteristics that are inviolate in a potential submissive: 1) you must never use "u" "r" or any combination thereof in any communication with me, 2) you must have a brain and a pulse and be able to employ both of them, 3) you must have a sense of humour and not take yourself or life too seriously, 4) you must share at least some of my kinks. I have a pretty serious leather fetish, so if you don't like leather, at least a little bit - or at least will humour me by wearing it! - I can't imagine it working out between us.
I find myself attracted to a wide variety of women. Short, tall, slim, not slim, blonde, brunette, redhead, etc., etc. etc. What attracts me is that spark - a great laugh and smile, dancing eyes. But that spark is different from person to person, and can only be seen, not explained.
Intimacy to me means more then just sex. Intimacy is a connection between people which can be expressed profoundly through a smile, a wink, a touch of a hand, a shared laugh in bed. Sex is just the gravy over it all (isn't that kinky??).
Intellectual stimulation is also very important to me. I would love to have a submissive that would be able to discuss ideas with me and even debate with me (although, I would always win, of course!).
I have a life outside BDSM, and I would expect my submissive to be part of that. My life outside of BDSM is also something that I don't like to mix with my life inside BDSM, so don't hope I’ll to take you out to the local park, string you up to the trees and flog you there. Most people would have no idea that underneath this shell, lurks a fetishist kinky pervert - nor should they be able to tell that about my partner/submissive. That being said, I find myself often attracted to women that might not always fit into my desires discussed above - I love goth girls and artsy girls, but I am never sure how practical following through on those attractions would be.
I don't have a picture on here as I need to protect my privacy due to work concerns. If we begin to correspond there will be time to exchange photos but I want to know you a bit first and establish some trust. Once I feel comfortable with you, and you with me, I will naturally share a picture with you.
I was active in the Winnipeg BDSM community before moving in August/03. Since there isn’t much in the way of a community in Saskatchewan, I don’t playing locally, but I do keep my ties to the Winnipeg community. I am only where I am now for a limited-time basis, and I don't know where I'll be in a year from now. Just the nature of my work-life right now, although I am hoping that this next year will bring changes that will allow me to settle somewhere long-term.
No matter if you are what I am searching for or not, I do enjoy very much having good conversations with others, so if you are able to hold up a conversation, please feel free to drop me a line.
Best of luck in your searches!
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