" Writing these profiles is always so much fun. It lets us show what we want to show, hide what we..."

Writing these profiles is always so much fun. It lets us show what we want to show, hide what we want to hide, paint these little on-line portraits of ourselves in the hopes that the beauty of the whole outshines the imperfections and damage done over the course of time.

So what can I really say? I've been into BDSM since about a decade ago. I'd gotten turned on by watching girls get spanked as a kid, but it wasn't until I first really knew what being "turned on" was that I connected the two very similar feelings. It's facinating, in de Sadean terms, how if that which is seen as taboo is a turn-on because it is taboo, then the more taboo it is the more of a turn-on it will be. If the world were run by fanatical OWK female dominants then it would be the vanilla sex that would be kinky. Perspective is a powerful thing.

On the flip side, CollarMe is like some sort of fucked up Singles Bar from the Seventh Terrace of Purgatory. The number at which men outnumber women makes it relatively implausable for a woman to approach a man on top of which most of the women are submissive and would prefer to be contacted first. But the kicker there is that because there are so many guys on this site, and because most of them are just your standard reprobates who assume because they think they have a big dick or once weilded a whip or have a tendency toward abuse that they're Dionysus' gift to the female gender, most of the women here have mailboxes that just get stormed. So for both sides, this is like finding a needle in a haystack, and that's just to find conversation. Then you actually have to connect, and you don't need ten years of interest in the subject to know how difficult that can be.

It's a tough place to be in. "Normal" relationships aren't satisfying, and yet these "alternative" ones are even more likely to fail than your standard la-dee-dah relationships because so much more is incorperated in terms of stressors on both parties. In my opinion the best possible scenerio is for two open-minded people to meet in a real life vanilla setting and develop their relationship as well as their roles in it.

Each relationship is different; there is no such thing as "100% dominant" or "100% submissive." There is always a bigger fish; there is always one to be eaten. Though I'm predominantly dominant and while I act the role almost exclusively, it would be unfair for me to judge existence as not having an ability to dominate me, nor would a denial of my own submissive tendencies, regardless that I've never found a woman capable of really dominating me. Eliminating possibilities is something you'll rarely see me do.

While power struggles can drain a person, there is no denying the cyclic nature of existence, which is to say that while a power struggle may seem chaotic, the ensuing ending where one party gains power is the opposite of that chaos: it's control. But sometimes to gain control you need to lose control; sometimes vice versa.

But I'm sort of tired of writing now. I hope you've enjoyed what I've laid down. And if you're interested in what I said, please feel free to write me; I love to discuss this stuff with like-minded individuals or people who think nothing like me.

Oh, by the way, I live in Taiwan.