| I need a dominant man to work himself into my life with the long term goal of taking me to the point of absolute submission and instant, unquestioning obedience.
This is all about control. Control without options. Control with consequences. Control meaning micro-management. Oppressive, unyielding and constant control.
While I am submissive and crave to function under another man’s control, the years have made me independent. Initially, at least, you can not simply trust me to comply in your absence. I do not have an inborn desire to serve or bring pleasure. What will drive me at first is both fear of consequences and the need for your attention. Assuming you are effective at imposing control, this will evolve to respecting you and not wanting to upset or disappoint you.
Even though I crave absolute control, my nature is to test boundaries - to attempt to regain a degree of the control that I have surrendered. I am good at manipulating, but am disappointed when I am successful. This doesn’t mean I start off resisting. I will offer myself to you as you instruct. (The idea of being tricked, trapped, ensnared and/or overpowered is appealing). Nor does it mean I will constantly challenge you. I won’t.
I will look for weaknesses and try to exploit them. At some point I may want out. I will complain, beg, threaten, lose my temper. If I see an opportunity to escape, I will. I will try to get you to compromise. I am often successful. I win, meaning I lose in that as the control diminishes so does my fulfillment from the experience.
Obviously I am not for everyone. Add my age and weight to my submission issues and most will have no interest in taking on the challenge I offer. But I also know that there are some who crave complete control over another man. They relish a challenge, a battle of wills. They would rather impose control than have it meekly given. They will take the mind and body offered and break and mold both to what they require.
What do I expect in the man I surrender to? Driven to control. Command presence. Mental toughness. Skillful dominance. Consistency - no break from our relative position. I am looking for reality and not roleplay. If the control is not real it is meaningless.
A bit about captivity. I define it as an inability to escape or evade your control. It can be complete as being locked in a room or cell - only leaving it when restrained to one degree or another. But it could also be being secured to an anchor that prevents me leaving. It could be no access to street clothes or wallet, meaning that even if I could walk out the door I couldn’t go anywhere.
In the start, at least, I believe some degree of constant confinement, isolation and/or restraint is the quickest and most effective way to break a person and impose the totality of your control. If confined I am totally dependent on you for even my most basic needs. You control every minute of my life. You control what I know, my sense of time, my comfort. I am forced to focus on you. The sound of your approaching footsteps brings both fear and relief. Fear of what will happen next. Relief because no matter what happens, it breaks the tedium.
The only aspect of control I can not surrender is control of my relatively assets. The exception to this is control of my disposable income. I own a business I can run as long as I have access to a cell phone and the web during business hours. I expect to cover any expenses you incur on my account. I expect to pay my own way. I accept that once my financial obligations are covered, I should not control or have access to disposable income without your consent.
I am looking for reality. Real time. I am also realistic. It will take time to reach the control and submission I seek. While I can not simply walk away from my life here without advance planning, I can travel to you on a regular basis for one to two week periods of in-person training with you maintaining control when I am in your absence. |
