I'm Pairadox. Indeed, to many that is exactly what I am, a paradox, equally at home hunting in the woods or at a black-tie formal. I am a dominant who does not force submission, only accepts it in return for his own gift of dominance. Hiking, skiing, white-water rafting, sports of most kinds enthrall me, yet working out in a gym is not my idea of a good time. I love to teach, and do so at BDSM events nationally, yet love to learn with an equal passion.
I'm not a switch - tried it, hated it, and thus remain respectful of those who can do what I can not. I'm not apathetic - when I believe in something, I tend to believe passionately and forcefully, while remaining respectful of differing opinions, always cognizant that I may indeed be wrong.
I live in Alaska, in the Interior. Life is extreme on both ends, in temperature, daylight, and humidity. It isn't for everyone, and indeed my partner has decided it isn't for her. She plans on leaving here come summer, and prefers to step back into a beta role. She is fully aware that I am searching, and would meet any and all that I consider.
I try to see the humor in the world around me, sometimes laughing when the only other option is to cry, yet can be deadly serious about the same thing. Balance is what I seek, in all the aspects of my life: spiritual, emotional, physical, mental, and sexual.
You see, where others see a paradox, I don't - I see only me.
To know more about me, I'd suggest reading my blog and asking me questions.
I seek two things:
First, I seek play partners, those that enjoy different aspects of this life. This is solely a means of getting our mutual needs met, with friendship as a preferred side outcome. We meet, we talk, and if what we wish to experience fits together, then we play. Look at my preferences in my profile to see if I enjoy things that you might also enjoy. As one of my greatest fetishes in this lifestyle is teaching, I'm more than happy to help you discover worlds hitherto unexplored by you.
Second, in the long term I seek my soulmate, my mirror image, the complementary half to me. She is very intelligent, curious, self-confident, and a great communicator (VERY important!). To the vanilla world, she is a strong individual, preferably a successful professional. Once within our home, she remains a strong individual, secure and comfortable within her submission to me. She submits to me because that is what she wants, her soul and mind in harmonic convergence with my own. She voices her opinions, accepts my decisions, and works with me to the good of us both. Her interests are eclectic, enjoying equally a weekend hike to cheering at a hockey game to exploring museums to appreciating an opera, just at home in jeans as she is in a formal gown.
She is comfortable in her sexuality. Together we will invite other women to participate with us, while remaining secure within our own relationship. If either of us desire another, it will be pursued primarily within the context of *us*, with other encounters approved in advance.
Age is less a factor. Body size is less important than her comfort within her own body image. I believe that if she can see the beauty in the mirror, then it will radiate out.
She is healthy, and addicted to nothing. While able to enjoy the pleasures of a drink or other product, none are an every day, must-have thing.
Finally, she believes in love, in all its forms. While relationships need shared combined work to thrive, love exists without conditions, without tests, with the intertwined emotions of those involved. She is willing to equally sacrifice, sustain compromises, and be cognizant that we are all but human and make mistakes, all the while keeping the alter of love lit with our joint emotional fuel.
