| I've been independent and a free thinker all of my life. Always sexually adventursome I was ahead of my peers as a younger man. That has led me to the D/s BDSM lifestyle and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I live in the country 30 minutes outside of Louisville in a house I designed and built myself. It is peaceful and private. The floor plan has entertaining in mind and I love to host parties. I also included a large dungeon space on the ground floor. I can host dungeon parties for 30 or so people, though it has been a while since my last one. I do bonfire parties in the spring and fall.
Living in the country on private land I also do some outdoor play. BDSM in touch with nature is pretty special. I've got several sites and can do just about anything outdoors that I can do in my dungeon, including suspension play.
I'm self employed and own a cabinet and furniture business that I run from my barn/workshop. Because I have the tools and skills I also make and sell some dungeon equipment, rather high end. Of course my own dungeon is very well equppied.
I like to stay active and fit. I have a very nice free weight and half rack set up as well as an AirDyne. I work out several times a week. I also have a scandinavian sauna down in my woods. Quite a treat in the cooler months.
I have many interests outside of the lifestyle and I try to stay balanced. I like gardening, reading, politics, good conversation, hunting, skating, wildflower indentification, bird watching, managing my forest and the wildlife that lives in it. I spend time in the city a couple times a week and I like typical city activities too. Coffee shops, fine food, theatre, music, dancing. I have a motorcycle, a sport cruiser, and love riding the country roads out in my area.
I've been independent and Dominant all of my life but have only been in the lifestyle for 13 years. I am quite skilled in a number of styles of play and derive great pleasure from dungeon play, power exchange, impact play, whips, floggers etc. The list of what I like is really too long to go into here. Suffice it to say I love the physical aspects of the lifestyle, including the sexual (I mean really people, who can honestly claim that it doesn't get them wet or hard?).
Even with my love of the physical and sexual I get as much pleasure from the mental, spiritual and emotional aspects. The depth of connection with my partner and the interpersonal dynamics are of great importance to me and that is what causes and allows anything physical to happen. Long before the whip hits tender flesh Dominance and submission have already happened in the heart and mind. So that is where the real energy is for me (but I still like to use the whips, LOL).
If you don't know what the above refers to then please move on. We wouldn't be a good match at all. It would be like teaching a pig to sing. The teacher gets pissed off and the pig gets bored. A lose-lose situation if ever there was one.
I'm looking for a long term partner in a relationship with a strong foundation in D/s. I'm not interested in fantasy, cyber, phonesex or online game playing. Real time is where this happens for me. If we can't look into each others eyes, if the sting of the whip isn't real, then nothing else is.
While my ultimate goal is to find a LTR I'm still open to some causual play with selected partners. Kind of like dating in the vanilla world - you have to do it to find somebody with more longevity.
I've been on collarme off and on for several years now. I know most of the pitfalls of looking for a partner here. But there aren't many options. Kinky people, be they Dom or sub, don't usually wear lapel pins out in public to identify themselves.
I offer good looks, intelligence, fitness, emotional availability, maturity and helath(but poor spelling), a good - if somewhat twisted - sense of humor, varied interests in and out of the lifestyle, experience and skill, an open mind, a desire to grow and expand, integrity, honesty, a truly devious imagination, the facility and ability to bring those ideations to fruition in heart, mind, spirit and body. All over your body actually.
The partner I'm looking for will be a balanced person. She will have interests of her own. She will understand the importance of integrity, honesty and communication, will offer nothing but that and will accept nothing less.
She must be growth oriented, in her own life, in the lifestyle and in our relationship.
Single or divorced is not important, but married or otherwise attached is out of the question. I'll not tolerate that kind of entanglement.
She will be active and fit. Fitness is important in many ways, endurance in the dungeon being only one of them. A healthy body and a healthy mind go together.
Attraction is important also. If sex is a part of this lifestyle (and it is for me) then attraction is important. Some may consider this to be shallow, and would want that I relax my standards on this. Would they want for me to relax my standards for integrity and honesty were I to meet a drop dead gorgeous partner that also happened to be a pathological liar? Keep off my standards folks, and I'll keep off of yours.
Experience is not all that important to me. It is important that you be awake in your head and that you are making conscious decisions and choices. That being said I still want a partner with boundaries that are pretty wide, and that is willing to grow and expand in all areas, including dungeon and play boundaries. On the other hand if you're one that says you have no limits I'll not be interested. All sane people have at least a no death limit. If you don't have a no death limit then I'd like to talk to you. I 'd like to recommend a good psychiatrist.
My style of Dominance is not one of force. I'm more interested in being given your power and submission than I am in taking it from you. I don't view this as a competiton, as that, in my opinion, would be the worst way to go about getting the deeper connections that I want. I don't expect you to give it blindly. Rather you'll do so because you have come to respect and trust me. Those things of course, trust and respect, must be demonstrated and earned by both of us.
A word on communication. Be willing to communicate regularly here on collarme, then through private email, then on the telephone and eventually in person. If meeting in person is something you aren't ready to do then don't start the process. My interests are real time.
A word on pictures. I want to see full body and face pics. If all you can, or want to, send are tit, pussy or ass shots move on. I'm looking for a relationship with a complete person not selected pieces of anatomy. |
