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It's time for a profile OVERHAUL! Yay!New profile as of 06/24/09, updated mostly to keep it
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Male Switch, 22, Brunswick, Ohio
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It's time for a profile OVERHAUL! Yay!
New profile as of 06/24/09, updated mostly to keep it relevant.
I found a profile today/night (I haven't gone to sleep yet, thought it's technically morning) that suggested a wonderful way to explain profiles. A profile is a way for you to get to know me a little bit (more than all that stuff listed at the left), and for you to know what I'm looking for. In the spirit of this, I'm going to attempt to explain both:
I'm:
A student
Quirky
Jobless, but searching (and hopeful!)
An enterpreneur of sorts
Emotionally UNstable, and not afraid to admit it (It's part of who I am)
Financially dependant
A family man (I'm very close with them)
A boy, trapped in a man's body
A woman, trapped in a man's body (it's complicated)
Sexually insatiable
Romantically insatiable
Shy with new people
Articulate to my own detriment in text (talk to much)
Loving to friends and family each
Searching (always searching) for someone to love
Searching (always searching) for a man to love me
Sexually inflexible (bottom. Period)
Sexually experienced
Sadistic
Masochistic
Mildly algolagniac
A submissive... sorta
Not really a dominant... at all
Submissive in 'real life' too
An intellectual
A Musician
A writer
A nihilist
A poet
A blogger
A gamer
A complete and total nerd/geek
I once said of myself that I love like a liquid... it all rushes in and fills whatever space is there. What I need in a mate would be someone who loves like a cup; not only a receptacle for me, but also a mold, a loving protection that encases my own love, protecting and preserving it.
I'm looking for:
a MAN
An intellectual
A dominant man (in a personality sense)
A sadist
A bit of an egotist
A lover
A fighter
A protector
Someone to be protected
A thrill seeker (no day with me is ever the same)
A nymphomaniac (in my wildest dreams...)
A romantic
Someone around my age (not too young or too old)
A friend
A teacher
A student
A cuddlebuddy
A kisser
Someone who knows himself (you may be unstable as me, but know yourself as I know myself and it doesn't matter a lick)
Someone shorter than me
A 'little spoon'
A fellow spork
A mate
Not all criteria need be filled (and if they were I'd be concerned!); I judge possible matches for relationships on three criteria (not including location, which I find to be an implicit agreement that you're close when trying to start one):
1) Mutual attraction - Do I find him sexy? Does he find me sexy? Is he someone that I would want to kiss for hours on end, or that I'd hide my face from? Do I really feel desired, or just the 'next best thing' until something better comes along? Are we sexually compatible?
2) Age - While age is just a number, it represents a number of issues of undefinable importance. Can I relate to him? Does he have the same culture of interest as I do? It affects these things and more.
3) Self-Knowledge - Does he know himself? Is he 'put together'? If not financially, why? If not emotionally, why? Does he have the capacity to love; does he know it? Is he comfortable within his own skin?
While these three criteria dictate my main decisions for relationships, 'hook-ups' (or casual sex) are decided based on a criteria of one... the first presented above; mutual attraction, and secondarily distance (I'm not really willing to go terribly far to get my rocks off, or even yours).
In a slightly more BDSM rout I consider myself a submissive.
"Ah, but why list yourself as switch," you ask, pointing to my profile.
It's simple. Despite being submissive, and a rather slutty masochist/algolagniac, I also have a very nasty sadistic streak which occasionally needs whetting. If there was any chance of not being able to fulfill those needs (even on another person, other than my normal partner) then things would not work out. Keep in mind, at no point do I consider myself a dominant... I'm simply inflicting pain on a willing participant.
An optimal BDSM relationship would be one not focused on BDSM or some dominant/submissive dynamic, but one where it was mildly implicit. I am a submissive personality by default; I like to please people, and I have a natural tendency to do as I'm told for those I see as authority or worth following. In this sense, I seek someone who would be the 'dominant match,' someone who is intelligent, naturally authoritative, who expects things to get done when he asks for them for no reason other than he asked for them to be done. In no way would it be a 'total power exchange' or even an explicit dicate of dynamic, however; it would, I hope, be occasionally brought into the bedroom with scenes, in addition to harder sensation/impact play.
I'm interested in learning about the dynamics of poly relationships, and even trying one, but I honestly have no clue about how I would respond in one. I've never proven a terribly jealous person, however; when I mention that I'm sexually insatiable I wasn't kidding. I will think that there's a problem (it's my nature) if we're not having sexual relations of some type once a day or more, within reason, once we have gotten to that point. I do not know how I would respond to the idea that a mate, or potential mate were seeking sex with someone *instead of* me (as opposed to *in addition* to me).
If my profile seems overly concerned with sex, it is because I, being young and (assumably) virile am also overly concerned with sex. At this stage of my life it is an important part of any romantic relationship and any healthy lifestyle. It is important to me and, while I don't mind staying exclusive to a single partner in a monogamous style relationship, I require open communication regarding it. It is on my mind, even when not aroused; chances are at any moment I'm asked, if I answer honestly my thoughts will be on some manner of sex.
Feel free to contact me, even if not looking at me as a potential mate. I really don't mind making new friends, and I am active on the boards as well.
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