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6/25/2008 4:03:50 PM: Gift of Submission

Master Wolf had given me this to read and i found it very interesting...i asked permission to post this on my blog and i would like to know your thoughts. thank you for taking the time to read my blog today.
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AG (Gabriel of Boston) held this at one of the Forums at Bound2Please about 4 or 5 years ago now.

Many novice submissives are terribly afraid of letting their true personalities shine through, and are holding back for fear of being branded "unsubmissive" or worse still "brats". Of course that would never happen at Bound .. home of the Bound brats.
But seriously though ..
These same women are often successful in their careers and other relationships, are well-liked in theircommunity and are often well-educated and very bright, dynamic people.
Through many of hours of private discussions with such people one is often frustrated at finding themselves unable to ease their trepidation.One possible culprit in this mystery-drama is the classic phrase "Gift of Submission" and the assumptions which derive from it. The idea that submission is some sort of gift is terribly romantic,but perhaps we should forgo the romance and stay realistic to try to explain how this idea has the power to mislead a huge segment of the D/s population, both Dominants and submissives.
None of us are "D/s experts" and most consider ourselves students, observers, and experiencers of power exchange relationships.
The idea of submission as a gift to be offered to a dominant stems from the "safe, sane, consentual" concepts embraced by the modern BDSM subculture (usually simply called The Scene).For submission to be truly consentual, they argue, it cannot be forced from the submissive, and she must offer it up without duress.This concept deters dangerous and aggressive types from preying upon naive submissives, by making it difficult for them to convince her thatthey can take her by force.
It also gives submissives who are unwilling or unable to leave a partner who is not, infact, controlling them, a way to pretend to themselves that they are in a D/s relationship.After all, he doesn't have to do very much, simply "accept the gift" that she has presented him, as he often does (with symbolic trinkets such as a collar) just to keep her happy.
Both these scenarios act to perpetuate Scene teachings, since the majority of people would certainly support the protection ofsubmissives from forceful predators.
With a majority of women discovering they are submissive after having committed to other relationships, we have a large pool of people for whom believing in The Gift is self-serving.The teaching has served them well, and they propagate it to the novice.Some have a serious problem with this. They think this Gift mentality disables in-depth understanding of the exchange of power. Further, it limits the dominant's liability while maximizing that of the submissive in a relationship where supposedly, he is the one assumingthe greater responsibility.
If her submission is a gift to him, and he comes home to find that she hasn't done something he has told her to do, where does the logical train of thought lead?
It leads to the idea that she has FAILED TO SUBMIT to him.
Not that he has failed to establish his control of her - no, she has failed to "be submissive".He'd accept her Gift if she'd only be good and keep offering it as they'd negotiated. And if she's broken her word to keep offering this Gift, she's more than likely to feel seriously conflicted and terribly guilty.
Instead of the dominant realizing that he needs to gain insight into the reasons why his control has lapsed on this occasion, he is tricked into simply blaming the supposedly powerless submissivefor the lapse. In such a situation, the submissive has in effect shouldered almost the total sum of the liability for failure to meet the dominant's expectations.
No wonder a common derivative of Scene "gift" mentality happens to be, "submissives are the ones who in reality hold all the power." 
Sure they do, if it is in their scope of decision-making to offer their submission or take it away.The dominant has effectively both shed his responsibility (and liability) for retaining power,and inadvertently made his submissive partner's obedience a condition of his dominating her.It's as if he'd said "I will only control you if you will listen to me," rather than "You will obey me because I will control you."
The first statement is conditional, weak and unstable, leading to fear of the submissive topping the dominant's tenuous control by simple misbehavior or resistance.
The second statement is unconditional, powerful and lends a feeling of safety and stabilityto the relationship, making the submissive realize that she is subject to behavior control, instead of her behavior being the controlling factor in the relationship.
These scenarios are played out hundreds of thousands of times between unsuspecting new couples.Often the submissive is literally convinced that her mannerisms, her behavior, her every word and action is going to determine the success or failure of the power exchange.
The dominant, if he is indeed a dominant at all and not simply a vanilla man trying to give his partner what she says she wants, feels profoundly disempowered, unable to figure out why she is constantly fretting over every little nuance between them, unable to figure outhow to control her since he has hit the brick wall of an emotional trap.This trap has been set by The Gift, and if he tries to control her through displeasure, scolding or punishment, he finds that she is unable to handle it and reacts with deeper self-condemnation,"knowing" as she does that she has yet again failed in maintaining the power exchange through her gift of submission.
If he goes easy on her and attempts to give her unconditional love, he finds that she can't handle that either, given that she actually craves the structure and reality of being controlled.
We've seen such situations, if not salvaged by a competent mentor, disintegrate into the submissive sinking deeply into self-loathing and self-blame, often sincerely questioning both her submissiveness and her ability to be a good submissive.
Picture the frustrated dominant roaming forever trying to find an "obedient" submissive, not realizing that obedience is not a natural personality trait, but is a response to genuine and effective control.
If you would like to give someone a gift, let it be roses.
Leave your submission for a dominant to evoke and nourish.
For dominants, if offered a gift of submission from an unsuspecting little one, let her know it isn't hers to give, but yours to coax out of her. 
Enough said.
An interesting point of view..written by AG/Gabril
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6/25/2008 4:02:16 PM: Entry for June 06, 2008 - the Adventure Begins

Spending a couple for Days with the Wolf..getting very acquainted and loving every minute of it. More to come about OUR/our sexy D/s adventures.
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6/25/2008 4:00:55 PM: How i met the WOLF

Getting to know a Dom is one of the most interesting things that I sub can experience but it can be very frustrating at times as well. We all know how frustrating this can be, especially when a sub has been searching for a very long time. I am sure that Dom’s can feel the same way while searching for the right sub because real Doms are very specific in what they want in a submissive.

Well most would say that Feb 2008 (When I was released by TOUR) till the present isn’t that long of a time, but I am a sub after all and “patience” is not something I am proficient at by any means. I was about to give up and stop looking but I am horny girl and so I thought what the hell I will go on Lava Life and see what I can find as a kinky partner or maybe even a DOM. Of course, I had very big doubts of finding a Dom on Lava, but what the hell I was just looking and I love the attention.

One morning, I was looking at Collarme.com and was checking out a few profiles and Wolf was one of them. I liked HIS profile but I was just so tired and frustrated that I decided to keep a note about HIM and let it go for now. Also, I thought HE was taken because a sub had told me that HE was her Master but was away for a while and she was waiting for HIS return, so I kept away.

Here I was on Lava (of all forsaken places), I never really liked this site, but a horny kinky girl needs to do what she needs to do. Next thing you know the flock of horny, horny men began contacting me and of course without reading my profile, which stated that I was only looking for a particular thing “ A DOM”. I had spent the first hour on modifying my profile and blocking men that I would never allow to touch me or who were not DOM, from what I could read in their profile. I decided to stop looking and took a break. Well i returned to continue my search, a Dom who intrigued me with HIS words came on to chat with me and I like HIM so much that I had gave HIM my msn almost immediately… I come to then find out that HE was in fact “THE WOLF” from CM that I was reading about that morning and I had read previously as well. (FATE? PERHAPS!!!) It was like the WOLF arrived and the flock of men, all disappeared, cause soon after I met HIM I cancelled my account on Lava. THE WOLF has a way of sneaking up on a flock of sheep J.

I wanted to meet as soon as possible, because i believe that meeting in person is much better then chatting, and I must say I was in no mood to be fooled again by a person who thought would be good to me as my Dominant. He generally never met anyone so quickly but I insisted and HE agreed. HE is Very kind indeed. ( Those are such gorgeous eyes she says to the wolf. Better to see you with little girl) hehehe! I think HE was also very concerned with how frustrated I seemed to be, with the process of finding a Dominant, and perhaps HE was impressed with how I knew what I wanted and I intended to get what I wanted and only the best for me would do. But this was to be only OUR/our first meeting for Lunch before I went to work.

WE/we met at the restaurant WE/we chose and had an awesome time getting to know each other. During which time I realized that HE really was the real thing and very experienced, which meant that HE could handle a sub like me. I can be a handful and I am looking for a Dominant that is very strict, likes submissive protocol/ slave modes (in whatever way HE chooses), which knows HIS stuff and understands me. I felt as though HE could help me grow as the submissive I craved and fantasized of becoming. Wolf was also aware that my heart was presently breaking as I was ending all ties with my first (true) Dominant who I loved dearly, but had moved on to a new and better submissive. Better for HIM. In any case, HE had moved on and now I was on the journey to moving on myself but letting go was the hardest part. I wanted to be able to submit to my new Master completely without the heavy load of baggage and sad feelings. I wanted to be fair and honourable and totally honest from the beginning. I have made many mistakes in past D/s relationships and I hope that I have grown and learn from them.

Wolf made a comment about the intensity of a D/s relationship and how HE understood what I was going through and I broke into tears. I was so embarrassed, but Wolf was so kind, and understanding and allowing me the time to compose myself, without judgement, in order for US/us continue our conversation. HE then made me laugh, with that great sense of humour, HE possesses one of the many great things I love about being in HIS Company. It was time for me to go to work and HE walked me to my car like a gentleman and kissed me goodbye. He had the warmest and kindest smile

I knew that I really liked HIM and that I wanted to continue to see HIM but I had to make sure that HE was right for me and that it was for the right reasons and not as a rebound fix it type of relationship. So I decided to tell WOLF that I really liked HIM but that I wanted to meet a couple of other Doms and then make the right decision. HE understood and was extremely patient. Obviously, this went a long way with me. The next thing you know I met HIM a couple of times (cancelling once because of my emotions and I was nervous) but finally played with HIM which made me make my decision. I will be more detailed about these sessions in future entries. And So, I picked the WOLF to be my Master.

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6/25/2008 4:00:03 PM: 
Seducing the Wolf

The first meeting to go to The Wolf’s Condo was cancelled because I was too nervous. I also had mixed emotions with dealing with the reality of never being able to be with my first Master again (HE had found another).

But, I finally found the courage to meet WOLF after work. My shift ended at 11 pm and although I was very tired, I was very excited to know that I was going to see the Wolf again. I had only chatted with HIM since WE met at the restaurant, and OUR/our conversations were always very good and HE was very patient with me. The WOLF only had intention to show me HIS implements that HE uses to train and play with HIS subs and to discuss behaviour that HE would expect from me if I chose HIM to become my Master. WE were not to play that night, but only get together to discuss the possibilities. I had other things on my mind; I am a sub/slut after all J.

I should mention that I had 2 other local dominants and one not so local, that I was considering along with the WOLF and so this meeting was very important for me as my patience was wearing thin with trying to fined the right DOM for me. The day before, I had decided to in fact meet with the WOLF, I had contacted HIM via text, which started a series of incoming and outgoing erotic Text messages that got me very hot and craving HIS Dominance, and HE craved my submission as well. This also made it very easy to make this spontaneous decision of meeting HIM the next day. I was so turned on that night from the text messages, that I decided that I wanted to feel HIM on me. To feel HIS touch, hear HIS voice, see and lick HIS HARD cock, and experience HIS Dominant style was all I could think about. I wondered what HE would do to me if I went to HIM without a stitch of clean clothing to change into after my shower. I had asked permission to take a shower when I arrived that night we spoke briefly on the phone as I was working for 8 hours and HE accepted.

11 pm had finally arrived and the anticipation was so great that my pussy was dripping wet and pulsating and aching for attention. I drove to the place HE had told me to meet HIM and followed HIM to HIS Condo and parked, HE walked me into the building looking at me, smiling and looking very handsome. HE asked how I was feeling and if I was ok and I responded that, I was a little shy and nervous but I was ok. WE arrive at HIS condo and I felt chills move over my spine and into my nipples making them very hard. I got the tour of HIS place followed by HIS strict but kind voice telling me to sit on HIS leather sofa, I did. HE had three silver cases displayed for my viewing pleasure, each case carrying different implements such as Insertables, spanking tools and restraints. HE also had an architect-drawing holder for longer implements such as crops, whips, and canes. I loved the variety and I was very impressed that the Wolf had made many of the floggers. In addition, WE/we discussed protocol and behaviour that would be expected of me if WE/we were to begin in a D/s relationship.

HE was very good at asking me if I was ok and making sure my comfort level was very good and then HE grabbed me by the hair and kissed me and I allowed HIM to touch me and kiss me. HE is a wonderful kisser and tasted very nice. The sensation of his tongue in my mouth and against my tongue was very hot and very exciting. I loved how HE never rushed through anything HE did. HE then gave me permission to use HIS bathroom and have a shower. I got up to walk away when HE grabbed me and kissed me again with passion, pinning me to the wall and feeling my breasts over my shirt, followed by lifting my shirt in a demanding manner exposing my breasts and my bra for HIS pleasure. I moaned with excitement as HE removed my breasts out of my bra; I stayed still not moving a muscle, moaning with every touch and allowing HIM to take me…getting wetter with every lick and suck and every touch on my nipples. As HE pinched my nipple HE pulled my head back, kissing me with more passion. HE knew I wanted this by the way I was interacting with HIM and my reaction, the way I looked at HIM and smiled with desire to be touched and used. I wanted to submit to HIM and HE could see my desire and need to serve. My submissive side was shining this evening. HE stopped suddenly and moved away.

“GO SHOWER” said the WOLF

My breasts still exposed, and my nipples as hard as a rock and hurting from pleasure and excitement. HE gave me a towel as I began to undress in front of HIM as HE started the water and walked out with a last glance at the girl that may one day become HIS property. My heart was beating very fast and furious with excitement of the unknown. Not knowing how HE will react when I mention to HIM that I did not have any clean clothes with me. Before HE had left, HE had turned the shower radio on, which I loved, it calmed me, and I felt surprisingly very much at easy for my first visit to the WOLF’S DEN.

Re-energized and refreshed after my shower I asked WOLF for moisturizing cream. When HE brought it to me, I then mentioned that I neglected to bring any clean clothes with me and ask what I should do. HE smiled and laughed, taking HIS time to answer and I smiled back at HIM, seducing HIM with eyes as HE watched me moisturise my clean sweet smelling body. HE then told me to keep the towel on and after I was finished moisturising to wait in the bathroom until HE came to get me. I did as HE asked, wondering what HE was doing, at that moment the bathroom door open.

“COME SWEET”. HE said

HE took my hand and walked me into HIS bedroom, which has a king size sleigh bed with wrought iron in the middle of each headboard and footboard panel. The footboard had most of HIS floggers lined up for my viewing pleasure and very practical for HIM to easily try them on me. I was very eager to be spanked, flogged, caned whatever.

“SWEET, GET INTO THE BED AND PLACE YOURSELF IN THE SUBMIT POSE, WITH YOUR ASS UP HIGH FOR ME.”

I dropped my towel and got onto the bed as HE asked, I kneeled in the bowing position, arms out gracefully and my ass up in the air exposing my wet pussy and ass. I could hear HIM walking up to my face and the blindfold went on. HE returned to my ass and HE did nothing for what seemed to be a long while, making me wait, (I love that) then I felt HIS hand touch my ass and then spank it. Then the flogger met my flesh and made me gasp with ecstasy. HE stopped and I could hear him walking round to my face and HE tied my hands together and told me to open my mouth. I did and HE let me taste HIS precum and then I opened wider begging for more of HIS thick cock. I wanted it to fill my mouth up. I was thinking the WOLF was a great name for HIM but some how HE should have been called horse J he, he, he…OMG I loved it!!! And I could not get enough of it.

After using me in the way HE wished for about 2 hrs, HE ended up taking my wet pussy and filling it with HIS hard cock, making me cum repeatedly over and over again. IT was intense and amazing. The time was 4 am and I went home. All I could think about was when will I see HIM again.