let me know. Hope to hear from all qualified applicants soon! --RMB

6/13/2013 6:04:10 AM: Dearest subbies, 
 
I am not considering any new subs/slaves at this time. I have too much on my plate as it is and not enough time to go around. If we have communicated already at some point and I've expressed interest in you, I will keep you in mind. Currently, I am already well served with what I have going on right now, I just do not have the time to entertain the thought of meeting more new people with the expectation of play. I am already having a difficult enough time finding windows of opportunity to have fun with the friends, play partners, husband, boyfriend/Dom, and subs I know now already. 
 
I am still fairly active within the community (not as much lately, as I have scaled back and become more reclusive due to personal reasons) so if you see me at something and want to introduce yourself, please do. I welcome all opportunity to shake hands with people when I meet them socially. 
 
Best wishes to you all. 
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5/28/2013 5:18:37 PM: With much trepidation, I am now going to start taking messages from Male Dominants. I am in an evolutionary part of my life and realizing potentially what I might be missing if I keep the door closed and locked.
 
If you are a Male Dominant and you are reading this, welcome and thanks for joining me. Most of what I stated in my main profile about the types of men I am looking for are universal regardless of your kink identification of a D-type or an s-type, however, some points are so important to me, that it bears repeating. 
 
I will not engage with anyone who is cheating on their spouse. No, not even 'don't ask don't tell' situations. Of course you could always take off your wedding ring and lie to me and hope I never find out. But I would hope people are generally more honest than to purposefully deceive someone just for a piece of ass. Just don't lie to me. Don't. I will have more respect for your upfront honesty about your situation so I am able to make an informed decision about whether or not to get involved with you. If you don't tell me, then you are removing my ability to consent to whether or not I want to act as accomplice to your extramarital secret activities. And consent violations are not something I take lightly. So don't be married and cheating or any variation thereof. Married men are fine, if its open and I can verify that your spouse knows and consents. 
 
I expect my Dominant partners to have at the very least the same amount of experience and skill sets as a Dominant as I do (preferably more, but equal will do). As my profile indicates, I am a Dominant leaning switch and by extension, I have a lot of experience Topping others in a variety of ways. In short, I am not looking for beginners, newbs or those looking to make me into their practice doll. I don't expect someone to have extensive expertise in everything kink has to offer, but if I can Top someone better than you can, that does not bode well for us. I will smell your weakness from a mile away. I am a whole lot of woman, so you better be able to bring it, confidently and proficiently. If your name happens to be James Deen, call me any time. 
 
 
I am NOT a masochist. Let me repeat that. I am NOT a masochist. I do not 'get off' on pain. It does not make my pussy wet. A whip to my back will not make me cum. So if you're looking for a pain slut or someone who won't have any pain limits, keep moving. I have a low pain tolerance and only enjoy just the right amount of 'ouchy' to get an endorphin flow going, but no more than that. I very rarely have my pain tolerance pushed to the extreme and when it has been, the end goal is to have some sort of cathartic release of whatever has been bottled up inside of me, not to orgasm. 
 
I have a very limited tolerance to stingy. Thuddy of most kinds is always encouraged. Rough manhandling, takedowns, being tossed around, carried and thrown down and violent and savagely taken will make me wet faster than anything. I do love the slow burn of a long build up and sensual Domination. But aggressive and rough sex is where it is at for me. I like my Dominant men to be strong, confident (but humble and not cocky), abundantly more Alpha than I, and secure in who they are. No, I'm not going to let you violently play with me right away. Those things take trust and time. If you don't understand the necessity for such, then you probably have no business trying to Top or Dominate anyone. 
 
My s-type play is very much sexual. 90% of the time, I will want to get off and to get off intensely, frequently and as if I'm having a spiritual experience. If I am in a deeply commited D/s involvement with you, seeing your pleasure from my body really is sufficient a lot of the time. To a point. But I do expect reciprocity, sexual generosity and some display of sexual selflessness from time to time. If you're only attending to your sexual fantasies and pleasures all the time and none of mine, we will not last very long. Dominant does not mean 'Sexual Narcissist'. See this body here? You better be able to touch it better than I can do it myself. Otherwise I will just do it myself. And you won't be around for it. 
 
I am not a slave. Unless I am so over the moon about you and I naturally just want to do things for you, as an act of service, to make you happy, you're a grown man, go to the frig and get your own beer. When my service oriented submission urge kicks in, you'll know it. I have hard limits which should be respected and acknowledged always. They are there for a reason and they are not pushed for a reason. I know myself and my kink well enough to know what you can push and what you can't. I've known me much longer than you have. 
 
I have a husband. If you are involved with me in much capacity, you will meet him, you will likely see him around at things and he will absolutely know who you are. He has to like who you are, respect who are you. If you are going to put your dick in me with any regularity, you are damn sure he will know who you are. If you can't handle the idea of that, then move on. I'm not about to make anyone into my secret lover/Dominant. 
 
If you have other committed partners already, that's fine as long as they also know who I am, like who I am, and consent to me being around. I would prefer that they possess a polyamorous mentality, but as long as they don't object or interfere in my time with you, I'm good with that. The model of polyamory I subscribe to is 'equal but different'. The idea of a hierarchy, of a 'primary', 'secondary', 'tertiary', makes me feel icky because it alludes to one person being lesser than an other. Which I don't feel is a positive healthy model to build any relationship on. 
 
I have very specific sexual kinks and I am looking for people who either share these kinks or who are at the very least secure in themselves enough to endulge their partner in those things, even if its not their favorite. I love to be objectified, loaned out, used by other people, and subjected to all sorts of whoredom. I will never be your one and only. If you expect that yours will be the only Dom cock I will want in me, you are in for a shocking surprise. If you enjoy whoring your girl out, enjoy seeing her be enjoyed with others and constructing opportunities for this to happen, then we are on the right track. 
 
I am NOT a 'submissive', at least not in the traditional sense. For Dominant partners for a D/s relationship, I am looking for the emotional connection, devotion, bond, chemistry and commitment that comes from a Dominant/submissive dynamic but one on a physical level that functions 80% of the time as a Top/bottom relationship. Most hints of 24/7 type of interactions don't work for me. I'm not going to give you my passwords to my accounts, I am not going to abide by a curfew, I am not going to let you tell me who I am allowed to talk to, I am not going to have you order for me at restaurants all the time or control my comings and goings, what I say, what I eat and what I wear outside of a 'play' or clearly defined fantasy enactment situation. The D/s is limited to mostly a sexual capacity, with hints of someone who acts as Protector and Defender in a D-type way. I need to maintain my sense of autonomy, independence and that I have the ability to make my own choices, sometimes with guidance and suggestion, but sometimes not. I am not looking for a collar, per se, as much as I would like to have a collar but with a very very long leash on it. 
 
I highly prefer my Dominant partners to be around my age. If younger, no more than 5 or so years younger and no more than about 10-15 years older. I am not wanting someone old enough to be my father or young enough to be my kid.
 
I enjoy all ethnic backgrounds of men. 'Hot' is universal. If you're hot, if you're attractive, if you have a nice body and a handsome face, I don't care what your ethnic background is. I tend to be drawn towards dark hair, dark features and have a strong leaning towards black men or biracial men. I am not a fan of genital piercings or a lot of excessive body modifications. I do love tattoos though. If they are artistic, beautiful and well done, a gorgeous man with beautiful strong arms and a full sleeve of tattoos will get my attention. But no tattoos are ok as well (I don't have any). 
 
If you are romantic, a gentleman in the streets but a rapist in the sheets, will open a door for me as easily as you can slam me up against one, if you passionate without being emotionally volatile, if you are willing to feel and demonstrate vulnerability as much as you can exhibit strength and dominance, then send me a message. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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4/18/2013 8:33:52 PM: CHALLENGE TO ALL MALE DOMINANTS FROM THE STATE OF WASHINGTON:
 
I don't normally advise people to repost private messages publicly from other users. And even though I have gotten quite a bit of extreme doozies that I have shared privately to my friends (because they think honestly that I make some of this stuff up), this one just takes the cake. 
 
Male Dominants from far and wide, and especially those residing in the state of Washington. This user from Washington state, whose profile states that he is a 'Dominant', sent me a completely unsolicited message recently and then when I basically bitch slapped him, he threw a temper tantrum like a 5 year old when a pretty lady wouldn't agree to basically send him her used undergarments and for no gratification in it for herself. 
 
This is who you have to represent you, guys. If this is the caliber of 'Dominants' residing in your state, I will never ever visit there for kink activities. Maybe he thinks that telling some girl to suck his dick on Second Life is what it means to be 'Dominant' (and by 'girl', I mean, another dude who looks and smells just like him). 
 
(misspelled words were all his, not typos on my end)

From:         (user name withheld)Dated:  4/22/13 10:26 AM     well may i ask if you would have a old used bra that you may not wante or need aney more,? i am asking so that i could have some of you here with me and so that i could wear it for you on cam whin or if you would like to use me on cam as your play toy for your self, please im asking, haveing a bra and pr of panties is the next best thing to haveing the female here with me.RoxMyBox on 4/22/13 at 5:36 PM:    For someone that claims to be a 'Dominant', you sure do sound like a whiny needy little bitch.And the answer is no. Do you actually expect someone to say yes? What the fuck do I gain from it? If it doesn't make my pussy wet or it doesn't put money in my bank account, I have no interest or time. 'Go to the thrift store and buy a used bra and pretend its me, fuckwad.From:         (user name withheld)Dated:  4/22/13 10:49 PM     WELL YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WORTHLESS FUCK SHIT GO FUCK YOUR SELF WITH A DOG THATS ALL YOU AR WORTH ANEY WAY AND HAVE THE DOG FUCK YOU AT THE SAME TIME YOU WORTHLESS FUCK MEAT AND YOU ARE THE WHINY NEEDY SNACH NOT ME AND YOU ARE THE BITCH SLUT YOU ARE THE ONE SHOWING WHAT YOU HAVE NOT ME YOU WORTHLESS LIL SLUTY CUNT
 
(and then he blocked ME so he could get the last word like a child he is before I could respond back)
 
DOMINANTS FROM WASHINGTON STATE HERE IS YOUR CHALLENGE:
 
I am looking for the fucking hottest, buffest, biggest dicked, fucking Tom of Finland Alpha 'pin me down and fuck me like a goddamn MAN' Dominant to restore my faith in the beauty and strength of male dominants in your state because this is a pretty pathetic representation. 
 
Send me a message and attach a photo of yourself to show me that there are actually male 'Dominants' in Washington who are actually DOMINANT, good looking, fit and have their shit together and are a fucking MAN for crying out loud and not a whiny bitchy baby who gets upset because a pretty lady won't send him her used undergarments AND entertain his pathetic ass on cam. Whomever can send me the best photo, I swear to god, I will send you the fucking hottest photo of my pussy and asshole getting stuffed that will get your dick harder than a, than a...well I don't know. You know what I mean. And yes, it will absolutely be my photo. BUT it WILL be watermarked AND websized. I don't trust you dudes at all to not repost it and then I find it 6 months from now on Reddit. I have no problem getting hot dick to feast my eyes upon, I certainly don't need to do something like this to obtain images to fap to of gorgeous manly man cock. 
 
RULES FOR QUALIFICATION:
 
You must be listed as from the state of Washington, as the whole point of this exercise is to restore my faith in the quality of available Dominants in that state due to the pathetic poor representation I received in this message. 
 
You must prove the photos IS OF YOU. Your photo needs to have you holding up something that has your user name on it. If it doesn't, its disqualified. I know you shady motherfuckers. You will just steal images of hot dudes online and claim them as you. I need to be sure its you. 
 
DEADLINE FOR THIS IS MIDNIGHT APRIL 30th. I will choose a 'winner' then, post their name in my journal and send the winner their photo of me. 
 
COME ON DOMS! DON'T LET ME DOWN!!!
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4/12/2013 9:44:18 PM: Guys, stop sending me chat requests. I don't use chat and I have no interest in doing so.
 
No, I will not add you to my 'circle of friends'. Unless you happen to also know a LOT of people personally that I also know or I actually have already met you in person. I'm not here to collect a bunch of random 'friends' that I'm never going to talk to, never going to meet and never going to play with. Seriously, this isn't Myspace. I'm actually here for a reason, not to play friend collector. 
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4/11/2013 8:14:28 AM: When you say 'I'm looking to be a live in slave and will relocate to you' what that says to me:
 
I am baffled at the amount of messages that inquire about seeing if I am looking for a live in slave and even go so far as to say they would relocate to me. Well, that's flattering and all that that you think I am such a Goddess befitting to move hundreds of miles for. But that's unrealistic. Anyone who is willing to pack their U-Haul and their life (be them a kinky person, vanilla or otherwise) to move potentially hundreds of miles for someone they barely know or don't know at all, says to me the following things:
 
1. You are looking for someone to live with for free room and board and saying you're a 'live in slave' gives you the in to be able to be fed, have a roof over your head, and no responsibilities. But I, your 'owner' am the one actually going to work every day, paying the mortgage, the utilities and so forth while you, my 'property' can indulge in your little fantasy of being kept bound and caged all day (as in, getting to lay around and do almost nothing). Seems like the 'slave' in this situation would be ME, not you, as I would have basically a parasitic entity and pain in the ass I'd have to see every day and have one more mouth to feed and take care of. While you, get off virtually scott free, except for maybe being responsible for doing house chores, running errands and small tasks and so forth but not have to contribute financially in any way. If I wanted someone to act as my personal assistant, I'd hire one and could send them on their way, to their OWN home when they are done with work. If I wanted a cleaning service, I would hire one and for probably for a lot less money than it would cost to take in a 'live in slave' that I have to daily take care of and feed. Yah, no thanks. Unless you happen to be independently wealthy and a millionaire, can pay off my house, give me and my husband about 100K a year so we don't have to work for our living, by all means, I have a little spot in the basement saved just for you. Granted, you pay to have it remodeled into a dungeon space, of course. Being a 'live in slave' for someone is not an opportunity to just be a freeloader and leech off of someone who worked for what they have. 
2. You are extremely unhappy in your current position in life and are looking for an opportunity to run away from it and start new as someones 'live in slave'. This shouldn't need much more to be said, as its pretty obvious why I wouldn't want to take in someone whose motives are as such. It is highly disconcerting to me when I get messages as such: 'I'm looking to be taken and made into a full time live in slave. I am married and yes i have kids. But i have a need to be a slave more than i have love for my family. I want to drop off the earth and never be found by anyone i know ever again.' Wow.Dude, you don't need a Mistress, you need professional psychiatric help. If you are so miserable in your life and feel like running away from it, it is highly unfair, emotionally selfish and a pretty shitty motive to look for some Mistress/Master to use and take advantage of just because you don't want to handle your own shit. I don't want to take in someone with these types of issues. I have enough of my own to deal with, thank you.
 
I could go into other things, but you get the point. Now I know I am generalizing here and I am quite sure there are slaves and submissives where these are not the truth for them. But from MY experience, a persons true motives for seeking this out is NOT service oriented. Their real ulterior motives aren't kink related at all; they are just looking for a free lunch and its transparent as fuck when I see it. This goes for a lot of the female slaves I see on here as well (some of which have contacted me). No dear, you're just a poor girl who is broke, has no marketable skills to get a job and are looking for me to take you in, feed you and take care of you. This is basically financial domination in reverse; a topping from the bottom if you will. If I wanted to have a child, I would pop one out of my vagina. I don't need a fetish site to find a child to take in and care for. Shit, I could become a foster parent to a child in need and accomplish the same thing. I don't need some barely legal 'slave' who will sit on the couch all day smoking pot and playing Words With Friends on Facebook. No thanks.
 
You want to be my 'live in slave'. Well, here's how its going to be: you're going to get a real 40 hour a week J-O-B and you're going to have to financially contribute to this household, just like I do, just like my husband does. You want discipline, guidance and a Dominant female to look after you? Well your first assignment is to show to me that you are a grown ADULT who can handle their own shit independently without needing to rely on others to leech off of. The title of 'slave' doesn't get you out of that. If you're living in my HOME, you are a member of my HOUSEHOLD and are expected to contribute as such.
 
OMG, this has gotten me so aggravated. The end.