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---"Expect nothing, prepare for anything"---
Updated 7-22-08
Disclaimer
Only looking for those local, able to re-locate or seeking friendship.
Please no one liners, i've tried to give an accurate representation of who i am as a person, and would like the same in return
Who you are (pointing to profile is okay,) what your expectations are, and what you want out of this relationship.
(The reason for the request is i've gotten to many "want to be my slave" etc etc emails.)
Finally, i've got up some new photos, a set that i feel accurately depicts not only what i look like, but also who i am. Believe it or not i am a bit reserved, but wacky at times. These got the whole spectrum.
my place in the world.
In the past few months i have learned much of who i am, both
as a person, and how i fit into this lifestyle. i have come to conclude that i
could never be happy in a vanilla relationship, and have also come to accept,
that for me, the word "slave" means no limits, and with that, a
commitment up front to always obey, this differentiates from a "sub"
who consciously chooses to obey at every request, every order; in essence
"consent to non consent".
my outlook
i believe in total honesty, as i'm horrible liar, and the guilt trip kills me.
i do not need, nor want a perfect match with all of the interests we have. Thus being said if we do not share complete common interests or if there is something that you do not share or i do not share, thats okay. i do not expect you to share each of my interests, no do i expect to share all of yours. i am however open to trying just about anything once. (even willingly) i do not deny to have my own convictions and beliefs, nor would i ever want to loose them. i also do not deny not to be a doormat. This is not to say that i am not submissive, as i've felt this need before i could even identity what D/s was (going back to the age of 5) but what this means is when i do serve, i do not just serve with my body, i serve with all my being.
i'm open to whatever may come of the situation, without expectations of the outcome. At first contact i have no expectations of where it will lead, only an open mind of the possibilities.
i promise to you, whatever the outcome is, whether it is a "no thank you", a few e-mails, friendship, perhaps more, i will always respect you, never try to hurt you, and won't disappear on you unexpectedly.
A Note On Interests
It seems that sometimes a relationship may not even get of the ground if there is even one interest that is a hard limit for someone, or a dislike. On that note, it is my belief that as a slave an order, activity, or interest, even if i may not like it, i will comply or complete it. i believe that through this it is more important than the singular item, but adds that much more to the relationship, the dynamic, something that was not there before. Sometimes an order, can be the difference between staying within a relationship, or not.
Notes About Nothing
i do not
believe that there is the "perfect match" out there nor what i want
this, for this would be boring, always knowing one another, and no
friction.
i will do what i can within the relationship to keep it intact, to keep it alive and living. i search within the relationship for areas that i can personally improve on, that will make both the relationship, and the power exchange dynamic that much stronger. i've found that communication is vital, and i never want the fear of asking a question, whether on not i like the answer.
about me
i'm down to earth, looking to know before i love, in other words, i believe that relationship should be built on friendship, and "love" should come naturally. "Expect nothing, Prepare for anything".
i love to laugh, love to cry, some may say "what!?" to this, but i believe that the two extremes balance each other out well. There’s nothing better than watching a great comedy, followed by a tear jerker, or a great action flick followed by that immerse drama.
i like extremes, the "work hard, play harder", this is not to say that i like to party, but is to say when i do have free time, i enjoy going all out, doing what i want to do, what I enjoy, and when i'm working i am focused on what i need to do.
i'm a bit of a homebody, and have tried to make my home somewhere I want to spend time, that is have things available at home that i like to do. i'm probably one of the biggest movie buffs you'll ever meet, and my family gives me a hard time that with the line "You want to come over and watch a movie", i'll actually mean it.
Currently i'm now working at the University of Phoenix as a technical support rep. i'm currently working on my MBA, which should be finished in a couple of years. This however is proving to be an interesting experience.
Who i'm Looking For
Right now my ideal is a long term relationship. i look at the D/s lifestyle as not just something to be kept in the bedroom, but something to be experienced, day in, day out. i hope to find Someone that i can share my everyday experiences with, laugh with, love with, cry with.... Experience life with.
i seek a relationship, Someone that has similar interests, not just in D/s but in the rest of life as well. To be blunt, sex is great, but its a fraction of our life, more time than not is going to be spent with one another in a "vanilla" scene. If all we have is the whip wielding fantasy, this cannot last.
The ideal for me is to have enough in common that the D/s, the power exchange of the utmost trust and understanding can transfer from a scene to any vanilla scenario with ease, and in doing so, an unwritten rule, an understanding between each other is made.
In the end however, it all comes back to getting to know one another, great communication, honesty, trust, and being able to have fun with each other. This is what i'm looking for in a relationship, not just the love and romance, but also the friendship.
There is much more i have to say, so feel free to drop a line. Promise i won't bite. (well not yet)
blake
---"Expect nothing, prepare for anything"---
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