Dominant male seeking submissive female. I believe in the need for control, but I like feisty, intelligent women who wish to serve and bring pleasure. That should not require controlling your every thought and move. I prefer to offer quiet strength, guidance, and decision making rather than domineering and micro managing.
I like to play with erotic
pain/pleasure and have been know to enjoy warming my lady's bottom. If you are unsure of what I mean by erotic pain, let me explain it to you. Real pain is when a hammer hits your big toe (did you flinch as you read that?). Erotic pain is that hot sensation as your nipples are pinched. Is it pain or intense sexual sensation? Not sure? Proves my point. Do you like having your "G spot" played with? Now you understand the sensation of pure pleasure. Mixing erotic pain with pure pleasure can increase the intensity of that pleasure. It is like adding spice to food to make the taste more intense. That is what I like playing with and what I hope you enjoy. So if you enjoy a bit of bondage and some intense sensual play, I want to hear from you.
I am a widower looking for a serious, monogamous relationship to last the rest of our lives. BDSM will be a part, but not the center of our life together. We will have a wonderful, active, mutually satisfying sex life. It is not just about me, it is about us. The chemistry works better with a height weight proportionate woman. Also, I never did learn to share my toys and I am not about to share my woman with another man. I may want to show you off, but no one else will ever touch you.
The nature of a D/s dynamic is critical. I am not here to force anyone to do anything. You will submit and do what I ask because your needs are satisfied and you are well cared for. I live by certain rules and you will too. Those rules are based first on what is honorable and respectful of others. I am not her to lie, cheat, or steal. Second, they are based on what works and makes life comfortable and a joy to us both. At the most basic level it is about keeping things clean and in good working order. I am imperfect and things fail, so life is an ongoing process of re-evaluation and improvement. When problems occur, we will talk about them and arrive at solutions. I will lead, you will follow, but your needs and desires are just as important as mine.
I have a full vanilla life which you will be part of. I hope you enjoy the beach, fresh food from the garden, travel, and choral music. I do not smoke. I am drug and disease free and my drinking usually consists of wine with dinner, if this speaks to you, look at my journal, and if intrigued, send me a note...
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