April 16, 2009
Fall turned into winter and winter into spring, and now, Sir has put his collar around my neck.
We met a year ago at the April munch for our group. Though I absolutely refused to consider a committment at that time, and he wasn't seeking one, we quickly became fast friends. In September, after a brief separation, I moved in and we promised each other that we'd stay the course through the fall, then reconsider if need be. The need never be'd.
I'm very content and proud to be Sir's good girl.
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Not looking. Here to make friends and read the forums. Am in a 24/7 negotiated live-in D/s relationship. See abuddingdom's profile here for more information.
Until the sub/slave debate is resolved, I have decided to just refer to myself as a floor-sitter. I love sitting on the floor at someone's feet with my head in their lap. I worry if I’m told to sit on the furniture and assume I’ve done something wrong and have been demoted to an equal.
As far as what I’m looking for in a partner, I need someone
*who guides, disciplines and cares for his/her charge;
*who accepts me for what I am while shaping me into what he/she wants me to be;
*who provides structure and routines through which I can internalize his/her will and authority;
*who creates an environment which supports my attachment to him/her and furthers my obedience.
These are requirements for me to remain functional in a relationship and based on a lot of introspection and experience with a lot of different situations.
I don't do mean, cruel, or harsh, except, perhaps in small doses. I'm more receptive to condescending and would do well with a caring, nurturing sort.
As far as what I bring to a relationship, I am generally polite, stable, able to follow through on a commitment, and well read in an academic sort of way. While I am not a romantic, I am very affectionate and find fulfillment in doing little things for someone I care about. I may not say I love you all the time or play kissy face, but I'll always remember your morning coffee which, in my world, says the same thing. I do laundry, cook from scratch, clean, wash windows, can talk to physicians and other professionals at their level, can do paperwork and develop and stick to a budget. I actually enjoy hard work and am willing and able to learn new skills.
I’m very practical and results driven. I know how to make laundry detergent, paper and my own cleaning products. I fully understand the virtues of baking soda and can sing its praise. Try me. But, be forewarned, I sing off key.
I am open to a poly relationship and would have to think long and hard before committing myself to a monogamous one.
When it comes to SM, I'm pretty open-minded and willing to try new things, but I'm mostly interested in D/s and creative power exchange and am flexible enough to accomodate a variety of motifs. I'm a multiply dimensioned masochist (yes, I made that phrase up) and am always interested in exploring the spiritual, emotional and psychological dimensions of SM.
I do love spanking, paddling, flogging, cutting and fireplay. There are times when I crave physical pain play and would love to find someone willing/able to meet that need.
I do have specific sexual turn ons, but those are better left to be discussed privately.
Above all, I seek a sense of connection and, if a connection is present, it is usually present from the get go. I don't understand this process of connecting, so I'm hard pressed to put into words exactly what it is that works for me. When it happens, it feels like I'm being drawn into a dominant's orbit. If such an attraction is present, everything I say about what I want and seek is moot. I can be a bit of a doormat if I’m sufficiently attached, and do better with an assertive partner who’s clear about what they’re after. (Don’t expect me to take the lead or even be an equal without clear guidance.)
My limits vary depending on the person I’m with. The more confidence I have in that person, the less restrictions I put on the interaction. In general, its safe to assume that I need to have a conversation about any specific activity before I engage in it. I have some hard limits relating to my own instinct for self protection, ethics, and the law.
Thank you for reading this.
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