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6/21/2013 2:44:05 PM
The slave mindset is defined by the SODS principle;SubmissionObedienceDirectionStructure.Submission- A slave has a deep and fundamental craving to please. It is hardwired into her. It is who she is, without being all that she is. Obedience- A slave feels the absolute need to obey in her soul. she does not want to lead, and only does so when she must.Direction- she needs guidance, direction, goals, rules, and clear specific intent.Structure- Discipline is structure. Structure is formed from the rules, rituals and protocols that that define the extent of the Three Powers. The Three Powers are control of her Body, Behavior, and Attitude.The slave mindset is defined by the SODS principle;SubmissionObedienceDirectionStructure.Submi

7/12/2009 5:33:35 AM
The Man in the GlassWhen you get what you want  
in your struggle for self  
And the world makes you  
king for a day,  
Just go to a mirror and look  
at yourself  
And see what THAT man has to say.  
For it isn't your father nor  
mother nor wife  
Whose judgement upon you  
must pass,  
The fellow whose verdict  
counts most in your life  
Is the one staring back from  
the glass.  
Some people may think  
you're a straight-shootin'  
chum  
And call you a wonderful guy.  
But the man in the glass says  
you're only a bum  
If you can't look him straight in the eye.  
He's the fellow to please, never mind all  
the rest,  
For he's with you clear to the end,  
And you've passed your most  
dangerous test  
If the guy in the glass is your friend.  
You may fool the whole world  
down the pathway of years  
And get pats on the back  
as you pass,  
But your final reward will be  
heartache and tears  
If you've cheated the man  
in the glass.  
   
---The Buddha Formerly Known as CliffThe Man in the GlassWhen you get what you want in your struggle for self And the world makes

1/6/2009 7:36:26 AM
'Heartbreak Comes, and Heartbreak Goes;  
But Ornery is Forever.'  
--- The Buddha Formerly Known as Cliff.   [:)]'Heartbreak Comes, and Heartbreak Goes; But Ornery is Forever.' --- The Buddha Formerly Know

11/20/2008 3:22:55 PM
MASTERS AND SLAVES TOGETHER INTERNATIONAL CORE VALUES  
Personal Fulfillment  
MAsT believes that power exchange relationships can be a valid path to authenticity, self-  
actualization, and happiness.  
Inclusivity  
MAsT is open to all adults interested in consensual power exchange relationships.  
 
Diversity  
MAsT welcomes people of every sexual and gender identity, race and ethnicity, body type, socio-economic status, physical capability, and religion or spiritual practice (including those with no spiritual beliefs).  
 
Free Association  
MAsT’s respect for inclusivity and diversity does not preclude each MAsT chapter from assembling according to the desires of the chapter director, and from determining the criteria for membership or participation in that chapter.  
 
Community Support  
MAsT encourages the healthy development and support of power exchange relationships through the sharing of knowledge, experiences, perspectives and ideas among its members.  
Mutuality  
MAsT believes that the individuals who enter into a power exchange relationship do so as equals and that, as with other types of personal relationships, power exchange participants have an obligation to support the well-being of the relationship and that of those with whom they’ve engaged in such relationships.  
 
Personal Responsibility  
MAsT believes that every individual who engages in a power exchange relationship has a primary obligation to their own well-being and is therefore responsible for taking appropriate action if such relationship becomes detrimental to their sense of well-being or is otherwise no longer personally satisfying.  
 
Boundaries  
MAsT believes that the protocols created by those in a power exchange relationship apply only to the individuals engaged in that relationship. The individuals in the relationship do not have the right to impose their protocols onto others, and those who are not a part of that relationship have neither the right nor the obligation to participate in such protocols when interacting with the individuals in the relationship.  
MASTERS AND SLAVES TOGETHER INTERNATIONAL CORE VALUES Personal Fulfillment MAsT believes tha

5/2/2008 5:29:51 AM
http://www.lthredge.com/ds/slavepoem.htm       
slavery is/not  
 
 
 
 
 
slavery is not about suffering . . .      . . . slavery is about service. slavery is not about humiliation . . .      . . . slavery is about humility. slavery is not about pain . . .      . . . slavery is about being present. slavery is not about being used . . .      . . . slavery is about being of use. slavery is not about control . . .      . . . slavery is about letting go. slavery is not about what is done to you . . .      . . . slavery is about what you do for others. slavery is not about abuse . . .      . . . slavery is about acceptance. slavery is not about proving anything . . .      . . . slavery is about being real. slavery is not about contempt . . .      . . . slavery is about respect. slavery is not about how you look . . .      . . . slavery is about how much you care. slavery is not about denying yourself . . .      . . . slavery is about being open. slavery is not about bondage . . .      . . . slavery is about freeing your spirit. slavery is not about punishment . . .      . . . slavery is about discipline. slavery is not about being unable to escape . . .      . . . slavery is about being committed. slavery is not about submission . . .      . . . slavery is about obedience. slavery is not about fear . . .      . . . slavery is about trust. slavery is not about sex . . .      . . . slavery is about love. slavery is not about pleasure . . .      . . . slavery is about happiness.   http://www.lthredge.com/ds/slavepoem.htm      slavery is/not

3/2/2008 10:11:43 AM
Submissive Owner’s Manual  
   
I need to feel safe. Before I can begin to open my submissive nature to You I need to feel safe and have reason to trust You. To let down my walls and give You control of my will may take time and testing before I feel safe enough to permit either of us to go beyond the initial stages of our relationship. Eve after I’ve given myself to you fully, I need to be reminded I am safe with You. I may like to feel the thrill and excitement of fear and the unknown, but I need to be sure no matter how You stimulate those emotions during an intense scene or situation, I will remain safe in your care.  
   
I need to know You accept me for all I am. I will be many things to You as our relationship grows and I need to know You accept me as a person during each transition along the way. I need to know You accept me as a friend, lover, companion, and Your submissive but also as a parent, child, employee, community member or other roles I fill in my obligations to family or society.  
   
I need to have clearly defined limits. I need to know exactly what You expect of me and know that You also understand my limits. In some ways I am like a child that needs a fence around my play area so I know how far I can go and feel secure inside those limits. I need You to reinforce those fences by correcting me when I try to climb them without Your approval.  
   
I need you to be consistent. I need to know You mean what You say and that today’s rules will apply to tomorrow’s behavior. Nothing confuses me more than giving me mixed signals by allowing me to break rules that You’ve given me. From time to time I may test You to see if You are capable of accepting control of my life by consistently bringing me back to the path You have chosen for me. It’s not done to try Your patience but is my way of finding reassurance You are paying attention to my progress. Very often it’s not done consciously and I promise I’ll not use it as a method for provoking Your negative responses.  
   
I need to expand my limits. I need to grow and be challenged. Left on my own, I’ll become bored or stagnate within the boundaries I accepted in the beginning. I need to be pushed, but never shoved, to go beyond the places I’ve been. I may drag my feet and pout at times, or sit down and refuse to move because I’m unsure and need your guidance in overcoming my obstacles. I depend on You for strength and encouragement to go beyond them.  
   
I need you to teach me. I need to learn and it is You who are my teacher. My mind is hungry for new things and learning helps me to become all that I can be. This may require You to continue to learn new things in order to keep me challenged. Together we can grow to the fullness of the gifts we have and deepen the diversity we share.  
   
I need goals. Part of my make-up as a submissive makes me very goal-oriented. I need them to measure my progress and need You to provide them for me. Take time to explain those goals in ways I can comprehend Your plans concerning my growth as Your submissive. Without Your direction I quickly become lost so I’ll look to You frequently to provide a purpose and aim as I continue in my development as a submissive.  
   
I need to be corrected.  I need You to correct me when I make mistakes. Without Your correction I will develop bad habits that can be very difficult to break and can do great damage to our relationship and to us as individuals. Without Your correction, I may never know I’ve made a mistake. Allowing me to continue unchecked will only cause me to fail both of us in the end. I admire firmness in Your correction and feel secure in knowing that You will never be afraid to take steps needed in keeping me focused on the goals you’ve set for me.  
   
I need you to be my role-model. I look up to You and try to follow in Your footsteps. If you fail to live up to a standard, I will follow you into failure, often without You noticing until its too late. I learn quickly by the examples You provide for me and often base my reactions and behaviors on my observations of You in similar situations. I will blindly pattern myself in Your image so be aware that my eyes will always be on You as You face Your own challenges and daily activities.  
   
I need Your approval and reassurance. I need to know when You approve of me or what I’ve done and to know I belong to You even if I fall short of my goals. I sometimes confuse approval with disapproval when You do not provide positive reinforcement when You are pleased by my actions. I will constantly be seeking Your approval when I’m unsure of myself and may need to rely deeply on Your support and reassurance when I’m confused about a situation or apprehensive about a new challenge.  
   
I need to be able to express myself. I have a need to express both the good and bad things to You but it may be difficult for me to put the negative things into words. I fear Your rejection and hate disappointing You, so I may need a little space and time to voice all the things I need to say. You can help me by reassuring me that my feelings are valid, even if they aren’t something You find pleasure in hearing. There may be times when I’m angry or upset with You but without freedom to express those feelings there can be only festering resentment or misunderstanding. Guide me in ways that I can learn to speak my heart without breaking it or Yours.  
   
I need to learn from my mistakes. I need to experience things that may be painful in order to learn successfully. I know Your protective nature will struggle with allowing me to be hurt but I need to learn the consequences of what I’ve done and experience the feelings that go along with making mistakes. I will need Your comfort once I’ve faced my failure but will sometimes feel unworthy of asking or unable to voice my disappointment in failing.  Allow me to sort out my feelings before wiping away my tears.  
   
I need forgiveness when I fail you. Nothing hurts me more than to know I’ve failed or displeased You and I need to be forgiven once I’ve made amends. It is very hard for me to forgive myself for a wrong-doing and I may need your help in getting beyond the feelings of remorse I am carrying. I may even need to be punished if my wrong-doing was traumatic enough, in order to feel closure and accept forgiveness. I depend upon You to make that determination for me and need your help in making an atonement that is acceptable to You.  
   
I feel a need to contribute. I have a deep-set need to give and must have outlets for this need. My basic nature is to give of myself and You will be the primary recipient of my gifts. Allow me to contribute to our relationship and life together. To do less will leave me unfulfilled and unneeded, a fate worse than death for me. Provide me with ways to contribute things to others, also. I may need to give of myself to those I hold dear but You will always receive the best I have to offer.  
   
I need to enjoy success. Without experiencing and enjoying my successes I may give up my fight to be all You desire for me. Allow me the pleasure of savoring the taste of victory when I overcome an obstacle or if You find pride in my attempts. All of my successes belong to You and I need to share their rewards with You. I don’t expect You to spoil me with grand displays for little victories, but when I’ve reached beyond the limits of my past attempts, please don’t deny me the sweet feelings of knowing I’ve achieved a goal You’ve set.  
   
I need to share with You. Sharing with You is a compelling need and one of the cornerstones of my submissive nature. This includes the emotional and spiritual aspects of my being as well as the physical body I inhabit. It may be difficult for me to give you access to the deeper levels of my emotions and feelings but those are the things I need to share the most. I’ll depend on You to direct me in ways I can achieve total openness with You. I also need to share in the things that You are. Trust me enough to share in Your fears, failures, and struggles. I’ll never see You as weak or incapable because You have shown confidence in me by giving part of Yourself in trust.  
   
I need to feel loved, respected, and protected in Your ownership. No matter how well I’ve done or how miserably I’ve failed. I need to know I’m still loved and protected by You. Nothing will prevent me from trying new things like fear of losing Your respect and love. By the reverse, nothing will encourage me to expand my limits and grow to be all I am capable of being more than knowing You will be there to protect me from harm and will love me even when I fall short of the target. I need to be loved and to love You in return. I can’t survive without it.Submissive Owner’s Manual   I need to feel safe. Before I can begin to open my su

2/25/2008 7:15:15 AM
The Deepest Cut       As she entered into the playroom, Her eyes downcast upon the floor There was no joy or eagerness in her step She knew well the shame she bore. The flogging which lay before her She knew well would be no playroom game. But rather a punishment most bitter, In payment for the Masters trust she had maimed. She lay out the tools of his craft Crop, flogger, paddle, oar. She knew well the bitter sweet bite of each of them She had felt them often enough before She removed her clothes and folded them Neatly upon the chair She placed restraints upon ankle and wrist And looked upon the stair. She waited for her Master To enter through that door She knelt and thought back upon her crimes And they chilled her to the core She had been rude to other Dominants, She had fought with other subs She had been rude, loud, drunk and unsubmissive Her backside she, with worry began to rub. As Master came into the room, to the X frame did she go. Of whatever else she may be guilty of... Rebellion her Master would never know! And placed herself in the position There upon the frame And trembled as he did nothing He neither touched her, Nor spoke her name At last she felt His hot breath behind her As he looked upon the toys that were laid out She yearned for him to strike her... To yell, to scream or shout. To bring down upon her waves of pain To wash away her sin She trembled but kept her eyes downcast As she waited for this night of shame to begin. At last he said so softly That she had to strain herself to hear 'My pet, when I placed upon you my collar, Which I know you hold so dear I also gave you my honor To just as proudly wear That you would stain it with your word or deed Is near more than even I can bare. With a start her hand went to her neck And from her lips escaped a soft but not unheard moan She tried to calm the fears inside her soul As she wondered what bitter harvest she had sown 'No my pet' said her Master As He understood what she had thought 'Your collar stays upon your neck... That is not the punishment you have brought'. 'For you have soiled and stained my honor pet, But the punishment you seek and crave Is to know that of you, my dearest dearest pet Of you...I am ashamed.' Without another word he strode from the room As she fell upon her knees No whip, no crop no punishment With which she could pay for her misdeeds The tears came of their own accord She could not hold them in That her Master was ashamed of her She knew was her greatest sin. Never had she felt such pain Not from flogger, oar or crop The tears fell like a soft spring rain As if never more to stop And then she realised the truth of it By ye princess, slave or slut The spoken word of one you love Contains the deepest cut. ©SirWolfr1All Rights ReservedNov. 24, 1999  
 The Deepest Cut       As she entered into the playroom, Her eyes

8/8/2007 10:52:45 AM
I was reading a book, 'The Master's Manual; a handbook of Erotic Dominance', by Jack Rinella, published by Daedalus Publishing Co., ISBN # 1-8819430-3-8.It identified 14 characteristics of a Master.They are as follows;'A Master;1) Has self-confidence.2) Is trustworthy3) Has self-control4) Accepts responsibility for the relationship.5) Understands that he has control, and understands theuse of control.6) Understands the responsibilities and the depth of therelationship.7) Understands himself8) Masters are mature through self-knowledge and raisedconsciousness.9) Masters are consistent.10) Masters use common sense.11) Masters have empathy.12) Masters have compassion.13) Masters have knowledge14) Masters have an appropriate level of skill.  
 
In my opinion, this is missing something; 15) A Master should know and understand his slave.I was reading a book, 'The Master's Manual; a handbook of Erotic Dominance', by Jack Rinella,

    

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