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 kateindenver

 Submissive Female

 Denver 

 Colorado

 5'1"

 130 lbs

 63

 Caucasian

 08/24/05

~Author Unknown

i find pleasure, joy, and fulfillment from being submissive
to my Master in a loving relationship.
i am not weak or stupid. i am a strong woman,
with firm views and a clear concept of what i want out of my life.
i do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength.
i will look to my loving Master for guidance and protection, for never
will i be more complete than when He is with me.
i know that He will protect my body, my mind, and my soul
with His strength and wisdom.
He is everything to me, as i am everything to Him.
His touch awakens me and His thoughts free me.
Only in serving Him do i find complete freedom and joy…
His punishments may be harsh, but i accept them thankfully,
knowing that He has my best interests always foremost in His mind.
If He desires my body for pleasure, i shall joyfully give it to Him
and take pleasure myself from knowing that i have brought Him happiness.
However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of O/our relationship.
The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt,
those are all parts of this relationship.
My body is His, and if He says i am beautiful, then i am.
No matter what i look like to others, i am beautiful in His eyes,
and because of that i hold my head high.
If He says i am His precious jewel,
then i am that…a beautiful, sparkling gem.
If He says that i am His pet, His slut, His whore, then i am that..
as wanton and dirty as He wants me to be.
My mind is His, to expand, to explore, to know only as He can.
i have no secrets from Him… for secrets are a thing that would
keep me from being more perfectly His.
Secrets would put a wall up between my Master and myself…
and i do not want walls.
His lessons are not always ones i would seek on my own,
but they are lessons He has decided that i need, and so i learn from Him.
My soul is His, as bare to His touch as ever my skin could be
when i kneel naked at His feet.
Never a moment goes by when i do not feel His presence,
be He miles away or standing over me.
If i were to ever displease Him, His displeasure would be a blow to my soul,
worse punishment than any lashes could be.
The anguish of my soul that i feel when i disappoint Him
is harder to bear than any physical anguish i feel.
i am grateful that he cares enough about me to spend
His time and energy so freely on me.
i have the easier job, to feel, to experience,
to let myself go and abandon everything to Him.
i am His pleasure and His responsibility, and He takes both seriously .
i am a submissive woman.
i am proud to call myself that, my submission is a gift that i do not give lightly,
and can only be given to the One who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold.
Only to my Master who has that strength, will i give myself fully,
because i am strong and proud.
i am a submissive woma

Hello,
my name is kate and i have been in the lifestyle for 9 years. i have served three Masters and had some playpartners. i am a good submissive  who strives to learn and grow under the direction of the right Dominant.  i give 110% and strive  to serve  and please the right One. i love erotic pain mixed with pleasure. i need that emmotional connection that the right Dom and sub can have. Please feel free to ask me anything and i will answer. i really would like somone who is local and is availab le for me. i would like someone who is single or divorced. i used to9 have very losw self esteem but no more;.l i hav e workrd hard to change my views of things. i have learned alot from my previous relations. i do not dwell on the negitive i only think of the good things i have had.
kate







Communication

H�.. Honesty
E�.. Exchange of power
M�.. Mentoring
E�.. Erotica
S�..Submission
T�..Trust
R-�-�relationship
Y�..Yearnings

S�.. Silence
U�..Understanding
B�.. Belonging
M�..Master
I�..Interest
S�..Surrender
S�..Sacrifice
I�..Intellect
O�..Orders
N�..Negotiation

A submissive should be a person of high morals. These morals should consist of proper conduct and a propensity for doing what is right. She should have certain qualities that reflect her Dominant�s needs and his direction and her own set of values.
She should be able to accept herself for whom and what she is and should know her limitations but realize that things do change and she will change also. Keeping thinking �stuck inside box� is self-defeating and prevents any positive change. She must take pride and pleasure in the person she is.
She must have excellent communication skills and talk openly and honestly, about what is in her heart and on her mind, she should be able to express her beliefs and opinions and her wants vs. needs and her responses and reactions. She should be able to talk about anything and everything. Having the ability express all of these things directly reflects the intimacy between her and her Dominant, as she fears no recrimination for expressing herself in this manner. She knows that if he senses any turmoil he will guide her through it with a loving and gentle manner. He will wipe away any tears and soothe her scenario calls into play the honesty of the submissive and the Dominant.
She has the ability to grow within herself, look for, and attain new goals. It is not important if these are mental, physical or emotional; as she grows and sharpens her abilities, she is preventing the relationship from stagnating. This helps her to grow as a submissive and discover new ways to please or serve her Dominant.
She must be able to honestly speak up, be open and truthful about what she says... She must not ever hide her emotions, fears, limits fantasies, ideas and thoughts and never ever tell her Dominant what she thinks he was not to hear! A successful submissive is honest, does not lie, deceive or intentionally manipulate. Honesty builds trust and this is the basis of a relationship. To lie breaks down the trust and therefore breaks down the relationship by removing its very foundation.
A submissive possesses humility. She knows that she will make mistakes and that she is not perfect and admits to them. She strives to correct them. She has an attitude of pride, but humility is necessary to prevent her from being arrogant.
She is intelligent and can think for herself. She has the ability to make informed decisions to whom she will submit and just how deep her submission will go.
She is loyal. This is a very important t trait it is the ability to uphold her Dominant�s rules over anyone else. She will not act in a manner that will raise doubts in her Dominants mind about her commitment to him. She will stand by her Dominant even when difficulties arise. This tends to go hand in hand with commitment, as both are necessary for the loving term relationship to survive.
She displays undying obedience. Her willing obedience is as pleasing to her as it is to her Dominant. A submissive does not obey out of fear of the /Dominant. She does because she has an incredible desire to please her Dominant. Obeying one�s Dominant is a part of the exchange of power.
Patience is one of the most important qualities a submissive must have. She must be able to wait for things. A Dominant has no tolerance for a pushy submissive. She must be able to wait for things to happen in their Dominants time not theirs. She should be able to determine the difference between what a necessity is and what is not.
She must possess a very health sense of pride � self-esteem. She knows who she is and her whole identity does not depend on other�s points of view. A solid sense of self-esteem is necessary to prevent her from becoming too dependent on her Dominant for her own mental picture of herself! This is not to say that she does not listen to advice or other�s opinions, it simply means that she is able to differentiate between what she feels appliers to her.
Respect is one of the most important qualities a submissive must have. I think she must have the ability to show respect through the tone of her voice, manners and her general attitude. She must respect her Dominant and be respectful to others. She has to show respect for her Dominant at al times and not just when she feels like it. This does not mean that she will not have arguments it simply means that� she will strive to have a respectful demeanor even at those times.
Service should be done willingly. She should be able to know what pleases her Dominant. She has to set very high standards for herself and strive to exceed them and go that one extra step. A Dominant may not always acknowledge her good deeds but becomes more and more aware of her willing service and compliance. I think that this is one of the things that helps create a healthy D. /s relationship. I have learned anything that is done with the direct intention of pleasing the Dominant. In some manner can be seen as service.
When I close my eyes and visualize the ideal submissive I see a woman who is dressed neatly, hair nicely styled and wearing carefully picked accessories/. Nothing about her is ostentatious,. She carries herself with pride and dignity . She is demur as she appears shy, modest reserved. . . Submission is not about sex. It is about sensuality. It is about trust and communication, vulnerability and caring and honesty. It is about being the beautiful sensual woman what resides within. It is about knowing who you are. Submission is not about sex. It is not something one can learn, it is not sex and it is not dirty. It is about a beauty that comes from within, it breaks down the walls of a lifetime and lets the beautiful sensual woman come through. It is about knowing who you are. In addition, what you want. A submissive is not  weak. She is strong in the knowledge of who she is.
It is the freedom to let go knowing that your Dominant is there to catch you if you should falter... It is about pushing to be the very best you can be. Not only as a submissive woman, but also as a human being. It is about learning growing and giving.
It is also about pain, as there is no growth without pain. , as there no freedom without the inner strength to let go of all those walls. There is no sensuality without breaking down all those walls that took years to put into place.i have been in the lifestyle almost 9  years. The first year was fantasy with my husband. We then took the step into R/t and what a remarkable journey it has become. lifestyle. I seek a Dom who is experienced and knows about bdsm. I do NOT seek a newbie who wants to learn. I choose to learn and mentored and taught. . I seek someone to whose place I can go. I need the excitement and thrill of packing a bag to spend a weekend way from here.
I enjoy the local scene and love the Enclave and the Sanctuary. I am an exhibitionist and adore playing at the club with my own Dom.
I need the combination of private plus public time. I would to find someone who enjoys vanilla things also like the mall or movies or dinners out. I seek and need that D/s connection weather together or apart.I need control and rituals and protocols.
I need to serve and please. I do not like to dress as a slut in public. Behind closed doors is a different story. I would love to find a long term partner who likes to go to bdsm events like �THUNDERIN THE MTS�.
I am a submissive not a slave. I do not choose to give up all choice. So please do not contact me if you seek a slave. I one to one relationship not Poly.
Once I establish the trust of the proper one I will serve and please as that is what drives me. I am also a masochist. I need some pain. This is not to be confused with punishment.
My thoughts about bdsm are that it is 95% mental. I think it is composed of play, control and the exchange of power. It is not all about sex it is about a combination of so many factors, the main being emotional need and the need for a relationship built on honesty, communication and respect. I am an assertive sub who loves long discussions and the ability to be given equal time in some parts of the relationship. I am a sub who, needs someone who respects my need to be a friend, lover and confident. I have been hurt a lot in the past by settling for the wrong person. I cannot afford to do this anymore. I will not meet for coffee and go straight to a motel or a car and have sex. I need to meet then go home and write about our first encounter refuse to rush into any relationship without ground rules and lots of communication about what limits and so forth. I will not suck your cock on the first encounter. In the past I confused submission with this and it is WRONG just plain WRONG.
I do not t mean to sit here and type demands I just have to put my cards on the table and let you know who I am.
I will do be the best sub you ever could meet if you and I have that chemistry. I will serve your every need. I like to be held accountable for my actions and corrected. Correction is not punishment it is a reminder. I believe any sub who tops from the bottom is wrong and needs to be taught the difference between that and communication.
In short I am a submissive who had character, assertiveness and class. And please if you are married and cheating do not waste my time or yours. My husband has a mistress and all we want is each other�s happiness

kate
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