
	what i see as my greatest strengths are my greatest faults -- i have been told i am too inquisitive, too anayltical and undeniably too passionate and i use that in the fullest sense of the word -- granted these are things said by those who felt i failed to be controlled by them. if you fail to put the right key into the lock, blaming the lock is far far easier on the ego ;) i do not seek someone to 'break' me of these things rather i seek someone who accepts them as being who i am and intends to use those attributes to our mutual enjoyment. the d/s dynamic absolutely is symbiotic in nature - it is about the needs and wants OF BOTH, neither one being more or less than the other. at this point i know a few physical things i enjoy but not much and honestly i dont find the toys to be all that important. if you as a dom cant bring me down empty handed, there's not a toy on earth that will help you. i seek someone to help me EXPLORE, meaning i need some room and time to try things and feel them and ingest them. someone smart. you have to outthink me if we're going to get anywhere. someone who absolutely does NOT use fear or domineering strategies to rule by. someone accepting - accept i have questions, accept that there's an awful lot i dont know about at this point. i don't expect you'll agree with how i feel about things, but i do expect my feelings to be respected. sense of humor and fun - always!! it really helps if you can tell playfulness apart from genuine insolence. i don't expect to find the magical 'one perfect dom for the rest of forever' - i dont feel that's realistic of human beings. but i would welcome having ONE person to explore and grow with for more than a single play session - preferrably one dom who has a varied background they're willing to lead me through. i do want to try various physical toys and situations. i am married, he's vanilla and he knows; i am heavyset / plus size in build for those that care about such things (but still smaller than a gray whale ;). although if that's all you care about then i can assure you i am not the right person for you. anything i haven't covered well, find a way to resolve that ;)