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 breastbonder

 Dominant Male

 Warren County 

 New Jersey

 5'9"

 165 lbs

 44

 Caucasian

 09/07/07

Good Looking 44M Dom - seeks slave.

I can be found in #Domination_and_submission 
the Free Speech TOPIC based chat room.

I'm an attractive, athletic, 44yo male novice who is seeking a submissive woman for  a discrete relationship -- online at first is ok, but want to take it to RL.  I have a pic on request -- just ask nicely :)

I'm married and stuck in a rather bad vanilla relationship, so if that is a problem for you move on.  If I've contacted you and it's a problem please let me know so I don't waste either of our time.

What I expect from you...

You are respectful at all times
You are fun and playful but know not to cross the line.
You are an obedient slave... if the rare task is given that you can not perform, you are respectful.
You are good looking and take care of yourself.
You are Christian.

I'm not big on brattiness or head games or other forms of topping/attempting to extert control.  While I am very patient and will attempt to correct a relationship issue by being forthright, it gets old if I am constantly doing this.  I am easy going but do not have unlimited patience.

I don't feel like I constantly need to give directives... but if I do I expect them to be done without hesitation.  If you think there is something you will not do that I am into you might want to consider looking elsewhere.

I will not put up with disrepectfulness even if done during duress... there is no call for brattiness, extreme jealousy, losing a temper, name calling, etc.

I am looking for someone who is within 100 miles or open to relocation eventually.  And yes, I know exactly what I am asking for... it is not an easy thing.

I'm in no hurry and willing to wait a long time before the next person I collar, feeling as if I rushed into it a little in the past (no offense to anyone).

I do not expect to collar someone until I have met them face to face.  Looks are important to me.  I don't expect a barbie but there needs to be a physical attraction.  If you have an interest in Me a picture is required.

I've had a few relationships go south on Me; as in they did not work.  This does not make Me a player only a person searching for someone I am sure is out there but have not found her yet.

If you are interested in Me I expect you to make it very clear.  Flirtng with others in the chat rooms in front of me or other actions designed to get a jealous response out of Me are not going to get you very far.  I am in constant evaluation mode... every little word, gesture, way of addressing Me, reaction to things I say or do are all going into My brain for evaluation whether or not a particular person is worthy... yes I know that sounds arrogant *shrugs* -- it is what it is.  Anyone who can pass all the tests are sure to be pretty special... and like I said I am very patient.

"Talking" to Me in PM is no guarantee of exclusivity unless I tell you explicitly I am considering you.  This is not being a "player".  I always talk to whomever I feel like talking to.  You should make it clear you are talking to Me and direct your attention there.  If I find out a potential slave I am evaluating, in particular one I have decided to exclusively consider, is talking to others in an effort to get to know them, I will dump them quickly with absolutely no remorse.  It's very disrespectful, period.  If this seems "unfair" to you, you should reevaluate what it is you are expecting out of an M/s relationship. 

I don't talk about those I am talking to and am not hooked into the "Dom" network, preferring to make My own judgements.  I am probably one of the most honest guys around telling it like it is, who I am talking to, etc.  Some can't deal with this and get angry/jealous - and that is something I won't put up with.  I have no problem answering polite inquiries about anything.

I have no problem testing a slave to see if she means what she says...  if you have a problem with this you probably should reevaluate what it is you are expecting out of an M/s relationship.  The correct response to a test may not always be to what you think... remember the first rule is always be respectful.

Bondage, shibari, oral, sex, humilation and objectification are my major kinks.  I am not a sadist, maybe some minor pain, not into knives, not qualified to use whips; not into fire, electric, scat, children or needles.  I am interested in Gorean lifestyle/philosophy but do not, and don't expect to, live it.  There are some excellent rituals that are a part of it that are very interesting. 

I have no patience for people who mock what they do not understand.

Some more about me...

Favorite past times
Hiking, camping, doing outdoors stuff, barbacueing, gardening.  In the winter, sleigh-riding (yup!), snow mobiliing.  Ironically I haven't ski-ed in years but
would love to give it a shot again. 

Indoors I like writing software, tinkering with building my own computers, watching movies, playing computer and video games,
reading sci-fi and fantasy, surfin the net, playing war and rpg's, mmorpgs (Everquest, etc), playing Quake II, III+ with friends.

I do like to have a good beer or ale and/or a glass of wine... cab is my favorite but shiraz is a close second.  Chardonnay or white zin are ok.  Mikes hard lime is a favorite when not drinking a beer.  They're great in the summer.

Favorite Sports
I generally don't watch Sunday football, I like it but don't always have the time.  I am a VERY BIG Boston Red Sox fan, have been
since 72.  I watch college hoops sometimes.

Music
I've got an eclectic taste in music, there isn't too much I don't like.  I enjoy classical with wine for relaxation, but my basic tastes are hard rock/metal.. tastes have evolved over time.  In the 80's I was a big fan of bands like Judas Priest, Black Sabbath, Iron Maiden... mid to late 80's Metallica became a fav,.. late 80's alternative like REM.  I also listened to rap cause I hung out at a roller rink (go figure!).

In the 90's metallica is still a fav but also got into grunge/alt rock Nirvana, Offspring, NIN, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Smashing Pumpkins, Alice in Chains,
Rage.

Today groups like Godsmack, Disturbed, Nickleback, Puddle of Mudd, Incubus, etc.

Family
I have children which are very important to Me and are my main concern in life right now.   I'd basically do anything for them including not pursuing this interest of mine at this point in time if I thought it would jeapordize our relationship.

How Did I get into my particular perv?

Detective comics and an Irving Klaw (?) picture on the back of National Lampoon did me in.  After that I always sought out more images of the sort.  When I discovered bondage riggers like Andy Adler, Jay Edwards, Lorelei and Irving Klaw I was done for!  I could not look at a woman's breasts the same way again! LOL

I'm INTJ (http://typelogic.com/intj.html) and in high school was pretty introverted only coming out of my shell in college (dorms helped that a lot!).  That's what happens when you skip class all the time to party hehe.

I can be quiet at first, but in a room full of people I am comfortable with you can't shut me up.  I am very sarcastic, borderline wiseass with a good sense of humor.  I have pissed many people off in the chat rooms :).

Turn off/Pet Peeves
People who take life tooo seriously. 
Those who are easily offended.
Negative and pessimistic people. 
Angry people. 
Extreme jealousy. 
Scorekeepers.
Grudge holders.

The following section was my original ad (HA!) which maybe came off a little too eager and blunt, but this is what i'm interested so it has to be covered sooner or later :).

Should have (this is more of a guideline :) large breasts (36C+) and enjoy breast bondage, tit-tieing, giving oral sex, being throat or mouth fucked, dildos, nipple clamps, arm binders, handcuffs, leather, ball-gags, ring gags, cock gags, being in photographs and erotic videos.