| :> I am here primarily to continue to read and participate on the boards as well as to keep in touch with folks. Best wishes to all! :>
Please note that I am leaving my profile as written earlier this year intact because I think it's an excellent representation of who I am; I am part of a monogamous, dyadic relationship and am open to making friends only on CM. I shall repeat: this chick is happily spoken for! :>
That having been said, here goes:
I'm a 34 year old female with a post-Masters education and diverse interests. I was married for nearly 15 years and nothing about my approach to life is casual. I believe in living fully, deeply, richly with love, honor, and loyalty.
I desire a husband, a soul mate, a life partner, a friend; someone who will share the joys and sorrows of life, walking steadfastly with me.
I bring much to the table to offer in partnership, as should you. I wish to reside comfortably within the center of my partner's Universe and they within mine, and merging with the knowledge that our Union amalgamates more than the sum of two parts. :> If you're commitment-phobic, please do not waste your time or mine. If a mutual interest exists, advancement and solidification of a relationship is a desire that I have. I was married for a long time, happily. Though that union went awry, I am a firm believer in marriage as a positive force in peoples' lives. It takes work, it takes patience, but when it's good, it's an immense joy. I wish to share that joy again. :>
I do not have or necessarily want children and the fewer past tag-along issues a partner has, the better.
Sexuality is an aspect of spirituality to and for me. I wish a partner who believes and lives the same. This does not mean, for one instant, that I view sex with rigidity or joylessness, quite the opposite, in fact: sex at its best, is a sacrament, a garden, where, in joining there is laughter, play, passion, intensity, spontaneity, and other wonderful potentials. I do desire a monogamous relationship (I have been involved in poly- relationships in the past and I do not feel the need to walk that path again, nor do I know that I will ever). Cheating warrants a swift and dramatic ejection from my life as my presumption of someone engaging in that behavior is that they wish to kill me.
While I identify as bi, I have no desire for a female partner. I am a switch and can function adeptly on either side of the kneel but my most natural and fundamental inclination is to be submissive with my male partner. That having been said, I do have some tastes that require me as the 'driver' on occasion. Many things interest me, the intimacy and psychology of power dynamics is the greatest appeal of D/s for me. Pain for the sake of pain does not excite me nor does humiliation or vacuous mindgames. Commitment and consistency earn my trust. With my trust comes many willingnesses.
As to the more commonly practiced manifestations of spirituality, I am tolerant of most religions but doubt substantially that a partner for whom some religious dogma is immensely important would be a good fit for me.
I work in a helping profession. Though I am highly educated, I do not place an inherently high value on formal education. Instead, I seek a partner with whom I may stand on comparable footing intellectually. If we can't talk with one another, if we do not have a commonality of interests and the ability to communicate with honesty and clarity, we'll not work well together.
We all have our 'types' or tastes and I am no different. I prefer tall men (6' or above preferrably) who are Caucasian, height and weight proportional. I like hair, so facial hair and long hair are generally things that I view favorably as is dark-colored hair. I do not like body modification, though I occasionally appreciate the artistry. Endowment is important and lesser than average is not a facet I desire to learn to work with.
I am 5', curvy (I have an hourglass shape and am soft in good places without being jiggily), have long, straight dark hair and dark eyes. Most folks think that my smile makes my assets all the better.
Rather than going through the check-off lists at this time, here's a stream-of-consciousness list of things that I enjoy: movies ("Watchmen" is the most incredible movie I've seen in a long time: see it if you haven't already), reading (Laurell K. Hamilton is a favorite, though Heinlein's "Stranger in a Strange Land" tops all), writing, creating art (Jewelry, 2-dimensional and 3-dimensional), music (Metal, rock, and just about anything but jazz), jiu jitsu/MMA (Taking classes and loving it!), cooking (Not gourmet, homestyle), drives (With good conversation or music), travelling, intellectual discourse, animal welfare (No, I am not one of those animal rights wackos but I do have a life-long commitment to my animals and intend to share my home with pets for the duration. I am also a vegetarian, though I do not desire such in a partner and I'm great at cooking meat), costuming (Especially for Ren Faires), weapons (Bladed are my favorite but I own guns too), etc. As you can see, I am not easily 'put in a box' in terms of interests and can derive great pleasure from watching a UFC bout as can I enthusiastically engage in a debate about politics, and bunches of other stuff. I pride myself on being a Renaissance person. Of course, this is CM, so the sexual/bdsm interests must find their way in, eh?! < grin > Yeah, I've been on the site for a bit, so I've waited until rather far into my profile to elucidate specifics as I am very clear that power dynamics while important, aren't my only deciding relational factor, not by a longshot. I enjoy a comfortable undercurrent of dynamics rather than rigid structure. The occasional romp into formality appeals. So, I am extremely comfortable serving one to whom I am a valued other, I am extremely sex-positive and open-minded, I like the idea of being flogged, occasional bondage is fun (Though my other using his body to restrain me is a far more sexy thought), I like clothes that restrict and remind of headspace, I enjoy using a strap-on with my partner as the receiver on occasion, etc., etc., etc. Humiliation and degradation piss me off, so if that's your gig, rock on but rock on away from me, please.
If you've read this far, I'm going to give you credit for having gotten the basic gist: I am a strong woman who desires to partner with a man who appreciates my formidability and takes care with my vulnerabilities and who is safe enough for me to express those with. In submission, I do not view the role as that of an automaton, but rather a valued other. In fact, that statement applies to Dominance as well. Respect is paramount. If you desire to converse with me, please refrain from one word or one line mails and do not use honorifics or demand that I do either, as those titles of regard are earned, not thrown around.
I am well-rounded and approach life with joy. I desire a lifemate with which to share. :>
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