"'Most welcome, bondage, for thou art a way, I think, to liberty.' ... ShakespeareI am not interested..."

I believe there is no right or wrong when it comes to beliefs or actions that do not destroy another.

I am naive in my trust of anyone I meet, until proven otherwise. I don’t believe that the next person I meet will cause me pain or suffering.

When one door closes, I open another... Some times it just takes me a while.

I would rather be made the fool than to have another hurt because of anything I said or did that was misunderstood and have played that role well.

I enjoy thinking outside the box and play devils advocate with anyone who doesn’t. Which doesn’t work nearly as well on line. Frowns

I make mistakes because I am human, so i feel blessed to know one who can admit to theirs.

I dream in color, texture, and taste.

I cry when I hurt and sob when I am loved and feel cherished when I look in the eyes of my husband.

I don’t believe that there is ever "too much of a good thing", but do believe that there is never too much to give.

What quotes I think are important and what they mean to me:

“The system of values that I carried with me . . . was to be tested by my captors. The payoff was my self-respect.” (VADM James Stockdale)... ... ... ... Integrity: Doing what’s right, even when no one is looking.

“Wrong is wrong even if everyone agrees with it, and right is right even if everyone disagrees with it.” (Anonymous) ... ... ... ... Character Ethics: Doing what is right according to their values, regardless of personal costs
(can you tell I have a military background??)

"I generally avoid temptation unless I can't resist it." (Mae West) ... ... ... ... Oh hell, what can I say? Grins

I want the impossible: Someone who is stronger mentally, physically and emotionally. A man experienced & knowledgeable in BDSM (not just in the bedroom) for a long term commitment. An Alpha male who suffers no fools; expects and pushes for nothing less than a TPE dynamic; manages to allow my flirting with firm control and no jealousy; and damn sure doesn’t need to piss on a tree to prove himself amongst the other dominants.

Someone who is physically fit because I like the feeling of power, of domination – even of force … besides, BDSM is erotic to me and I want to be sexually attracted to him ~ color me shallow shrug. He needs to take care of his appearance – I am not looking for a suit and tie, but sweats aren’t acceptable for going out in either.

Someone who realizes that just because I am married doesn’t mean I am here to cheat on my spouse (Yes; my husband knows and accepts – has even met prospective Dominants), because cheating equates to lying, lying equates to a lack of Integrity and without Integrity there can be nothing... If you are married, your spouse has to know and be accepting - no ifs, ands, or buts – period.

Someone who is financially stable – this (for me) means more than living paycheck to paycheck . I am not looking for a Sugar Daddy – my husband takes care of my needs in that area extremely well. However, I am a girly girl, somewhat high maintenance, and very old fashioned in my beliefs (with a 21st century twist).  If you believe the man pays for the meal, entrance fees, etc (once a relationship is established) then you understand me.  So you can imagine why a local relationship would also be best. :)

My ideal relationship would be a weekend get together every month with possible day meetings depending on location. My husband has one hard limit for me: Sex. Until he feels my safety was not in jeopardy there would be no intercourse.

And now for the fine print :P

Please be comfortable with a bigger woman - I dont care what my picture looks like I try to be honest on my weight.  I also stand about 6' when in heels - remember this because I wont always be kneeling.

You see a picture of me ... I would think it is only fair (if you write to me for the possibilities of a relationship) for me to see one of you before you ask if there is an interest.