Cautious Polyamorous Submissive Seeking Attentive Secondary Relationship (bdsm experience a plus)
About Me:
Until about 5 years ago I believed that the goal of a submissive was to make sure that dinner is on the table every evening before 6:30. The last few years have been enlightening. My current dominant husband carefully nurtured my submissive nature and I have bloomed rather nicely (if I do say so myself). I married my soulmate. We consider ourselves “poly” and are both open to secondary partners. HiroProtagonist has given me his permission and blessing to explore here (yes, I am blessed). So the net result is that I am expanding my horizons, safely online for now. Perhaps there really is a secondary play partner in my future…
I’m Looking For:
If I could go online and build a perfect secondary, he would understand that the key to my heart (and body) is my mind. Stimulate my mind and everything else follows. He will respect my boundaries while pushing my limits. He will be a skilled guide and teacher. He will honor my marriage. He will be a trusted friend and playmate. He shares my enthusiasm for travel, good rope, fine food, erotic literature, live theatre, and all the finer things in life. It would be helpful if he included both a subject and predicate in most of his sentences, had finished reading a real book since the end of the 20th century, and understood the importance of honest and open communication, even when it is not nice or convenient.
What you can expect from me:
Those who know me well would describe me as creative, good under pressure, and adventuresome. I reluctantly admit to being a tad obsessive and compulsive. I fully understand the importance of discretion, but insist on honesty. I will not be “the other woman”. I take an intellectual approach to almost everything I do. I have no interest in being 24/7 anything to anyone, however, should we decide to share our time, talent or treasures we will both be rewarded.
Just a few things that make my eyes roll:
I honor and respect all kinds of play. For me personally, I have to draw the line at being a slave. I have no problem submitting to a demanding Dom or bottoming to a trusted top – but I am not now nor will I ever be a slave. Also, when I identify as poly please ask for an explanation or definition instead of showing your inexperience or lack of knowledge by asking something like “Does your husband know you’re poly”? And the final four, don’t ask for pictures in the first paragraph of our initial conversation, don’t assume I will do anything without negotiation, don’t ask me to keep secrets from my husband, and don’t destroy the bond of trust by testing my hard limits.
P.s. I really have heard all of the lamb jokes. Yes, there is real mint jelly in my refrigerator and no I have never laid down on Broadway. It is actually a term of endearment from my childhood.
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