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Brunswick

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340 lbs

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Caucasian

02/12/10

It's time for a profile OVERHAUL! Yay!New profile as of 06/24/09, updated mostly to keep it relevant.I found a profile today/night (I haven't gone to sleep yet, thought it's technically morning) that suggested a wonderful way to explain profiles. A profile is a way for you to get to know me a little bit (more than all that stuff listed at the left), and for you to know what I'm looking for. In the spirit of this, I'm going to attempt to explain both:I'm:A studentQuirkyJobless, but searching (and hopeful!)An enterpreneur of sortsEmotionally UNstable, and not afraid to admit it (It's part of who I am)Financially dependantA family man (I'm very close with them)A boy, trapped in a man's bodyA woman, trapped in a man's body (it's complicated)Sexually insatiableRomantically insatiableShy with new peopleArticulate to my own detriment in text (talk to much)Loving to friends and family eachSearching (always searching) for someone to loveSearching (always searching) for a man to love meSexually inflexible (bottom. Period)Sexually experiencedSadisticMasochisticMildly algolagniacA submissive... sortaNot really a dominant... at allSubmissive in 'real life' tooAn intellectualA MusicianA writerA nihilistA poetA bloggerA gamerA complete and total nerd/geekI once said of myself that I love like a liquid... it all rushes in and fills whatever space is there. What I need in a mate would be someone who loves like a cup; not only a receptacle for me, but also a mold, a loving protection that encases my own love, protecting and preserving it.I'm looking for:a MANAn intellectualA dominant man (in a personality sense)A sadistA bit of an egotistA loverA fighterA protectorSomeone to be protectedA thrill seeker (no day with me is ever the same)A nymphomaniac (in my wildest dreams...)A romanticSomeone around my age (not too young or too old)A friendA teacherA studentA cuddlebuddyA kisserSomeone who knows himself (you may be unstable as me, but know yourself as I know myself and it doesn't matter a lick)Someone shorter than meA 'little spoon'A fellow sporkA mateNot all criteria need be filled (and if they were I'd be concerned!); I judge possible matches for relationships on three criteria (not including location, which I find to be an implicit agreement that you're close when trying to start one):1) Mutual attraction - Do I find him sexy? Does he find me sexy? Is he someone that I would want to kiss for hours on end, or that I'd hide my face from? Do I really feel desired, or just the 'next best thing' until something better comes along? Are we sexually compatible?2) Age - While age is just a number, it represents a number of issues of undefinable importance. Can I relate to him? Does he have the same culture of interest as I do? It affects these things and more.3) Self-Knowledge - Does he know himself? Is he 'put together'? If not financially, why? If not emotionally, why? Does he have the capacity to love; does he know it? Is he comfortable within his own skin?While these three criteria dictate my main decisions for relationships, 'hook-ups' (or casual sex) are decided based on a criteria of one... the first presented above; mutual attraction, and secondarily distance (I'm not really willing to go terribly far to get my rocks off, or even yours).In a slightly more BDSM rout I consider myself a submissive."Ah, but why list yourself as switch," you ask, pointing to my profile.It's simple. Despite being submissive, and a rather slutty masochist/algolagniac, I also have a very nasty sadistic streak which occasionally needs whetting. If there was any chance of not being able to fulfill those needs (even on another person, other than my normal partner) then things would not work out. Keep in mind, at no point do I consider myself a dominant... I'm simply inflicting pain on a willing participant.An optimal BDSM relationship would be one not focused on BDSM or some dominant/submissive dynamic, but one where it was mildly implicit. I am a submissive personality by default; I like to please people, and I have a natural tendency to do as I'm told for those I see as authority or worth following. In this sense, I seek someone who would be the 'dominant match,' someone who is intelligent, naturally authoritative, who expects things to get done when he asks for them for no reason other than he asked for them to be done. In no way would it be a 'total power exchange' or even an explicit dicate of dynamic, however; it would, I hope, be occasionally brought into the bedroom with scenes, in addition to harder sensation/impact play.I'm interested in learning about the dynamics of poly relationships, and even trying one, but I honestly have no clue about how I would respond in one. I've never proven a terribly jealous person, however; when I mention that I'm sexually insatiable I wasn't kidding. I will think that there's a problem (it's my nature) if we're not having sexual relations of some type once a day or more, within reason, once we have gotten to that point. I do not know how I would respond to the idea that a mate, or potential mate were seeking sex with someone *instead of* me (as opposed to *in addition* to me).If my profile seems overly concerned with sex, it is because I, being young and (assumably) virile am also overly concerned with sex. At this stage of my life it is an important part of any romantic relationship and any healthy lifestyle. It is important to me and, while I don't mind staying exclusive to a single partner in a monogamous style relationship, I require open communication regarding it. It is on my mind, even when not aroused; chances are at any moment I'm asked, if I answer honestly my thoughts will be on some manner of sex.Feel free to contact me, even if not looking at me as a potential mate. I really don't mind making new friends, and I am active on the boards as well.

7/7/2009 10:04:13 PM: I know that it's stupid to bitch...but when I see main pictures (on the 'recent journals' page) that show LESS of the person than the picture *I'VE* wanted to post as my main picture does and the reason it's been rejected is because it's too close-up and there's not enough visible... I start to get kinda annoyed.Also, may go crazy if I don't find someone to quell my urges with soon. Self flagellation and sucking hard candies only works for so long. _______________________________ 7/4/2009 5:24:18 PM: It's absolutely fabulous how my tastes in men have changed.Just a random note. Wonder why I can't change my text color though o.O sorry it's unreadable?On EDIT it let me change the colors :D Yay! _______________________________ 6/19/2009 4:09:48 PM: I NOW OWN A SEX STORE!!!:Dgranted, this means I won't be around for a while. The store needs a complete resort of the goods from over 120 categories into 6 easy categories. I carry almost 88000 products (YES that's the right amount of 0s) including some rather kinky stuff, so I'm sure I'll be pimping it out a bit, once I've finished sorting. If you simply can't wait, I AM open for orders NOW, but please email me here for the link; the site's still a bit rough and things are moving back and forth, but I can process your orders directly after you buy them, if we're online at the same time. I have probably the cheapest prices around (I'm only trying to make enough product to pay for hosting/domain name AND make a tiny profit).Get at me :D _______________________________ 6/16/2009 7:47:25 PM: Occasionally I really hate having the equivalent of five lives that combine all into one.1)Family/UltraPublic - This is the one that I live the least that, lately, I'm forced to be in the most.2)OldFriends - I miss this... I still get to live it every now and then, but not that often.3)SemiPublic - My life at my new college. I don't know if I like it or not... I'm erring on... not. It's a very lonely lot.4)Online(Private) - Those places online where people who I don't know in real life are who I hang out with. Collarme fits in here.5)Online(Public) - Those places online with a mix of those I know and those I don't.It's like there are five mini-mes running around and they're all conflicting with each other. My favorite self? The Online Public, or the old friends... probably a mixture.But I'm conflicted by some relationship stuff right now... namely, old relationship stuff. I hate not being able to help him, but I can't really help him. He doesn't want to help himself... or if he does, he won't actually do it.And it just hurts. I still love him (in a non-romantic sense anymore, really)... and I *want* to help him and it hurts when I can't (or when he won't let me, or when he can't let me).The killer? I know some things I could do that would... really... probably help him. But I just can't, and he wouldn't let me either, even if I could. It would look non-genuine, too, which I wouldn't be able to deal with.I'm taking my friend's advice and divorcing myself from it, as much as I can. It's time to demand that I get something out of our interactions other than hurt... and at the same time I don't want him to stop talking to me. We'll see how it all turns out. _______________________________ 6/15/2009 7:22:59 PM: My past few days have been crazy, leaving little, to no, time for collarme.Sorry to all of the one person who emailed me who's obviously a scammer :PAlso, Ohio Revised Code? Not reader-friendly *bangs head*

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