"Pleased to say that I am no longer looking, having found exactly what I sought, but happy to chat to..."

Thank you for viewing my profile. I apologise in advance that it is rather long, but I have put much of what I consider to be important information in it.

Several people have told me that I've been selling myself short in my previous profiles. I've also been told by many people over the years, that I have an insatiable appetite for many aspects of the lifestyle, and I guess I'd have to say I agree with them. It's part of who I am, always have been, and probably always will be.

Although I am married, my Hubby is very understanding of my needs, and is fully aware of my posting here. He is not looking to observe or take part in any involvement I have with anyone else (other than a social drink perhaps).

My earliest memories of being interested in the lifestyle come from story books as a child, which contained references to characters getting spanked for being naughty. A few years later I remember overhearing my neighbour spanking his daughter and wishing it was me. By my early teens, I was aware of fetish magazines, and was given some. That opened my eyes into the world of BDSM. So really I guess it has been with me, just constantly evolving, throughout my entire life.

Virtually all of my previous partners have been into something kinky in one way or another. I gained much experience of many different things, even trying my hand at being Domme for a while (nope - not me at all, although I still learned from it!). I don't consider myself to be an expert, despite having been active in the lifestyle for over 15 years (many more if you want to include my early encounters). I have tried, and loved, many different things, and have always felt that there is much more to learn. Trying something once does not make someone an expert, and I view with caution those who are new to the lifestyle but give themselves the title of 'expert' in any field. Even some self professed 'experts' still have much to learn. Most of my previous encounters have left me wanting more. BDSM is a constant learning curve and I have a total aching to learn more.

I do already have a very special friend that I play with once a month. He is virtually a part of the family now, and I have no wish to stop playing with him. He openly admits that he is mainly into DD; but has learnt a few aspects of BDSM from me, such as restraint etc. He is no threat to anyone else I may encounter, and the fact that he visits to spank my backside once a month should not cause anyone any problems. He knows of my posting to find someone else to play at a deeper level than interests him.

I truly believe that men are superior to women (well.....the decent ones.....arrogant brutes, users and self important fools deserve no respect). I love to please a Dom, and feel genuinely repentant if I give him any reason to discipline me for my wrong doings. A Dom should be respected and obeyed at all times, and his word should be final (ok I'm working on that one!).

I do have a list of things I have done, and things I would like to try, as well as the things I am not into. If you would like to see it, please ask. Yes I do have limits, which I will discuss before any kind of play takes place, and would naturally want to know those of anyone I were to play with. Whilst I want to learn more, I do expect my limits to be respected. I wouldn't expect anyone, even the most hardened Dom, to do anything that he was not comfortable with.

I prefer someone taller than myself as I feel height adds to the air of authority, and preferably around my own age, who has the ability to teach me and the patience to guide me while I learn. I'd like them to be honest, open, tactile, kind, firm, fair, caring, understanding, consistent and with the same or preferably higher level of experience than myself. I have played with several novices, and younger inexperienced Doms. With all due respect for them, I now feel I've done my bit on the teaching side, and want someone to teach me, guide me and lead me. I don't mind going along to fetish events and clubs, but I also love playing one on one. If you are put off by such things as red hair, specs, BBW's, or health problems, then I'm probably not the sub for you.

I've done my best to be informative here, and tell you all I can about myself.

As a final point....

When I first chat with you, I will use your name, and sign mine with a capital letter. I'm being formal, but friendly.

When I get to know you and like you, I will sign off with a 'X'.

If I start to feel respect towards you, I will sign my name with a lower case.

If I feel submissive towards you, I will call you Sir, sign my name with lower case and sign off with a special formation of xx's

If I want to actually offer you my submission, I will let you know in the best way I can (which I often find rather difficult, as I don't want to embarass you in case you don't feel the same way), but I won't actually submit unless I know that you would accept it and take me as your sub. I'm a firm believer in submission being given, not taken.

Please don't rush me. Two emails and a messenger conversation is not enough for me to know if I could submit to you. If the spark is there, I will be honest and tell you. If it's not, I will again be honest and tell you.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Your obedient subbie (well who knows?)

sara
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