" The following statement is per MistressJade's  instructions:  ***if you are a Dominant a..."

A submissive's Bill
of Rights

i have the right
to be treated with respect. Not only do i have this
right, i have the right to demand it. Being submissive
does not make me a doormat or less of a person than
anyone else. The word "submissive" describes my nature and in no way diminishes me as a human
being. i have the right to respect myself as well.




i have the right to be proud of
what iam. Being a submissive is nothing that should
ever bring me shame or feelings of reproach. my submissive
nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride
and happiness.



i have the right to feel safe.
Being a submissive should not make me feel afraid,
insecure or threatened. Submission is not about living
on the edge or flirting with fear. In any situation i should feel safe or there can never be true surrender.




i have the right to my emotions
and feelings. my emotions and feelings come from me
and they are just as valid as anyone else's. i have
a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or
negative, make me who i am and suppressing them
will only bring unhappiness later.



i have the right to express my
negative feelings. Being submissive does not make me
an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns. my
concerns are real and i have every right to express
them. If something doesn't feel right, bothers me,
makes me feel bad or i just plain don't like something,
i will say so. Failing to express my negative feelings could
give the mistaken impression that i am pleased or
satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or
agreeable.



i have the right to say NO. Being
submissive does not take away my right to have dislikes
or negative feelings about things. If something is happening
or about to happen that i feel strongly opposed to,
it's my duty to speak up. Remember, failing to communicate
the word NO is the same as saying YES.



i have the right to expect happiness
in life. Being submissive is not tantamount to being
miserable, suffering or a life of despair. my submission
should bring me joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't,
then something is wrong.



i have the right to have input
in a relationship. i am an active partner in any
relationship i enter and have every right to contribute
to it. i am submissive, not passive. A relationship
that doesn't include my needs, thoughts, hopes and
desires is not one i should be in to begin with. This
applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships.




i have the right to belong. Being
submissive greatly involves the feeling of belonging.
Many submissives have expressed that it was in discovering
their submissive nature that they felt as through they
"belonged" for the first time in their lives. i belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong
to the One. It's in that relationship i should find
the final fulfillment of "belonging" at last.




i have the right to be loved and
to love. Anyone who tells me that love doesn't fit
into a D/s relationship has never experienced the fulfillment
of all it truly can be. Submissives are by nature loving
and needing of love and have every right to expect this
to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring
your submission into full bloom, so don't settle for
less.



i have the right to be healthy.
Health involves my physical, mental and emotional
well-being. Any relationship, D/s or otherwise, that
causes me to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally,
beyond my limits, is abuse. There is no place for
abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to me to make sure those lines are not crossed.

Being a submissive does not give anyone the right to
harm or injure me in any way. The D/s community will
stand behind me if i should encounter such a situation
but i am the one who has to make them aware before
they can help.



i have the right to practice safe
sex. Not only is this a right, it's a duty to myself
and others i may come into contact with at a later
date. Sexually transmitted diseases have reached epidemic
proportions and must be a concern to any sexually active
person. Safe Sex is something i have the right to
insist upon and protecting myself should never be
discouraged by anyone who really has my best interests
at heart.

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