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I am Sea. Depending on relationship status and exclusivityat a given time, I may be open to meeting people as a single submissive male, or as part of a sub-sub or femdom couple.
Announcements
Mid-May: Presenting How to Provide Excellent Service at DomCon Los Angeles, and Psychology of Service Submissives at Dungeon Servitus in San Diego
June/July: NYC, DC. Presenting at Black Rose Meeting in DC on Psychology of Service Submissives, Presenting at BESS Meeting in Baltimore on Psychology of Humiliation
Austin is my home base. The change in location is temporary.
Personality
I like to be light spirited and will go out of my way for a laugh or fun. I see value in being silly and serious.
In myself and others, I value intelligence, wit, creativity, and a sense of being well rounded. I value kindness. Usually ;-)
My glass is half full. I am a live-and-let-live type and think most things are gray more than black and white. I like to be good at whatever I do and extend this aspiration to my submission.
Social Information:
I had a conservative upbringing and have a non-conservative outlook. I can function in both worlds. Outside of family and work, socially I lean towards a non-straightlaced, non-conservative existence and crowd. I lean towards the liberal side of things, especially with respect to social issues. I prefer NPR over Fox news.
I completed college with a degree in electrical engineering. I am currently self employed.
Hobbies, Interests, Passions:
Ways I like to spend my time: music (large eclectic collection, amateur laptop DJ, facilitate music at an ecstatic dance at a yoga gym), dancing (goth clubs to ballroom), photography (work displayed at fetish photography exhibit), BDSM, eclectic events (theme and costume parties, fire shows, fetish shows, art shows, Burning Man), movies, games, clubbing, going out, eating out, conversation and banter, occasional stints of performance, occasional sports (watching and playing), massage (registered massage therapist). I enjoy that that requires creativity. Sometimes I write. Sometimes I sing in the shower--I am particularly fond of duets! Other subjects that interest me: holistic health, science, psychology, alternative philosophies and some aspects of metaphysics, philosophical discussions, some social issues (gender issues, race issues, mostly with an anthropological perspective), sexuality, cultures and languages (I have set foot in 12 countries and know profanities in multiple languages!).
I have been fortunate to meet local artists and musicians that keep me tuned to eclectic events. Meeting this community has inspired several creative endeavors.
BDSM Interests:
BDSM influences my social, intellectual, and artistic pursuits. I have been aware of my BDSM interests since early childhood. My experience includes various forms of submission: physical/corporal, service, worshipful submission, mental submission, more. I have not filled out the checklist because I find checklists, especially binary ones, too limiting. For me, BDSM is largely mental. The tone I assume varies from formal to relaxed and lighthearted based on whatever energy organically evolves. I love to see a woman in power and please her. I have had some wonderful moments through such experiences and have earned flattering comments consistently.
Physical Apperance:
This description remains from the pre-photo era. I have dark hair, dark eyes, and a tan complexion. I appear to be in good shape, which I attribute to stretching (on the couch) and exercise (brisk walk from my car when I'm late for work). Thank you, Dad, for the excellent metabolism rate!
Ideal Person:
The more commonality I feel with a Domme, the more I am drawn to her. I am attracted to feminine charm (the drawn-to-commonality comment does not apply in this case ;-) ), wit, a pretty face, pretty hands and feet, intelligence, independence, and confidence. Ideally, I would like to find a woman locally with whom I am compatible for BDSM and traditional romance (companionship and romantic love). I would be most compatible with someone with whom I feel attraction and chemistry, and who senses commonality as she reads the text above.
I take my not-black-and-white-but-grey philosophy to relationships also. For me, it is not only either companion or not companion. I am open to a relationship that does not appear to have long-term potential, or where it is uncertain how much this potential exists at the interpersonal level or due to respective situations. Here, I would be most compatible with someone with whom I feel attraction/chemistry and share bdsm interests. While I am open to that that is not necessarily a companion-level, strong romantic connection, it is important for me to feel social attraction, and appropriate chemistry and connection based on common ground.
General Social Philosophy:
I see value in social networking. I have enabled introductions (for social relationships, or project collaborations) through such networking and realize that the same could happen for me. Due to time constraints, relationships and greater friendship that extends beyond networking (participating in social events outside of seeing each other at general BDSM events) I must give priority where there is commonality that provides a basis for such deeper relationships.
I feel the closest to people into BDSM (in and outside of female dominance) with whom I sense commonality and could enjoy time even if we did not have the BDSM interest. When there are signs of compatibility for a relationship or friendship beyond networking, I think it is best to meet people without specific expectations and see what chemistry evolves and what level of relationship is seen appropriate by each person.
I am fairly accepting of persons who have a profession based on BDSM or sexuality. For me, I prefer relationships based on mutual interest, and those that critically rely on material items are not for me. My BDSM relationships are social relationships and I approach them much like I approach my general social relationships. |
